How do I be the parent I want to be?
How can I raise healthy, confident, and peace-loving children when the world seems to have so much conflict?
I value care and respect. I long for a peaceful world and I don’t know how to model that when I also get angry and say things that I wish I hadn’t.
These were questions running through me when I was pregnant with my second child.
With a five-year-old at home, I knew how challenging, wonderful, and unpredictable parenting can be.
I felt a wondrous, freeing potential as well as a weighty responsibility.
I wanted to “get it right,” thinking there even was such a thing. :-)
I longed for close, respectful and loving connections with family — yet how?
When — as serendipity would have it — a fellow pregnant friend introduced me to Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I knew I wanted to make it part of my life. I am indescribably grateful that I did.
I enthusiastically and energetically studied with many skilled and experienced Certified Trainers as well as with Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of NVC, and I became a CNVC Certified Trainer, too.
What a gift NVC has been.
Not only did it help me clarify my parenting goals and how to move in their direction — it benefitted every facet of my life.
Releasing ideas of “good,” “bad,” and “perfect,” and focusing on observations, feelings, and needs was liberating and has resulted in so much more gentleness, awareness, and connection.
NVC/Compassionate Communication has supported me to hold compassion for myself in the “wee hours” of a sleepless night, to listen fully to my children free of “fixing,” to navigate differences with my husband in ways that respect and honour us both, and much, much more.
NVC/Compassionate Communication has helped us all move through the colour, the turbulence, the expected and the unexpected in life with more ease and compassion than we once might have.
My enthusiasm for NVC spills over into my love of sharing NVC with others.
I long for NVC to become “mainstream” and have been sharing NVC far and wide.
I am equally comfortable with Zoom as well as face to face.
I facilitate regular foundation trainings on Zoom and I see individuals and couples at a beautiful, private venue overlooking Byron Bay, New South Wales, Australia, and forty minutes south of the Gold Coast, Qld, Australia.
I am grateful to be on beautiful Bundjalung country and respectfully acknowledge the first nations people as the original custodians of this expansive land.
I invite you to visit my website for updates on NVC offerings and opportunities, find out a bit more about NVC, and to read comments and watch video feedback from people who have trained with me live and online.
You’ll also see the colourful round needs card sets I created as a resource for facilitators, counsellors and therapists, psychologists, parents, and individuals of varied ages, for empathy activities. They have been enormously well received.
Feel free to email me to explore the many ways we might choose to work or play together.
I’d love to connect with you.
“Ah Ha” Need Card sets.
“Paulette, thank you for helping me deal with many challenges in my life. Your calm, balanced, sensitive approach has helped me with my marriage, parenting, friendships, decisions and just LIFE.” – K. M. Manly, Sydney
“Hey, Paulette, people in my “Dancing with Self-Compassion” workshops are LOVING your cards!!!!!” – Phyllis B., USA
“Twenty-one years after embracing NVC, I am delighted to have raised two healthy, compassionate, aware and peace-loving young adults, thanks in large part to NVC. I am confident we can all help make the world more peaceful, more compassionate and, to quote Marshall Rosenberg, ‘more wonderful.’ Let’s connect and help create the world we want.”
- Conflict Transformation
- Family and Interpersonal Relationships
- Peace and Civil Discourse