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Irma Jager

Honest Expression with Care for the Other
New Zealand
Speaks English, Dutch
Certified Trainer since 2021
"I love how NVC starts with me. It is only when I transform my own stories, identify my personal core beliefs, and translate my judgments, comparisons, and evaluations into feelings and needs that I can move to deep compassion and self-love. From that place, I can experience more ease in relating and communicating with others. This is the gift of NVC for me."

Irma Jager’s journey into Nonviolent Communication, which began in 2006 with a desire to find the language of compassion with her young children, has brought her to this place: to be part of the international NVC community as a Certified Trainer.

She lives in the top of the South Island of New Zealand, in a community with seven households, where NVC has been the glue of their cooperative living for two decades. “Our family grows about 80 percent of our food (think homemade cheese, bacon, honey and tons of veggies and fruit),” she says, “and I truly love the connection with the food that nourishes me.” She has been a passionate home-educating mother of three, now grown-up, children.

She regularly offers weekend or day workshops in her local area, to include foundation trainings and specific topics (e.g. parenting, empathy, couples). She also enjoys face-to-face coaching, empathy, and conflict resolution. She is a facilitator of Ruby Retreat, a recurring retreat for people who are in recovery from addiction. Her other passion is health and nutrition and she brings the skills of NVC into her health coaching sessions.

She enjoys bringing NVC skills into the community in a variety of volunteers roles (e.g. as a volunteer rural firefighter, event organisations, local food co-op). She serves as the treasurer for the NVC Charitable Trust, which has the lofty ambition of “Compassionate Connection Thriving in Aotearoa-New Zealand.”

Since May 2023, she is working for the Center for Nonviolent Communication as a Programs Assistant; supporting Intensive International Trainings around the world. “But what matters even more than ‘doing’ these things,” Irma says, is that “I live and breathe NVC with a passion.”

“The objective of Nonviolent Communication is not to change people and their behavior in order to get our way: it is to establish relationships based on honesty and empathy, which will eventually fulfil everyone's needs. Marshall B. Rosenberg”

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  • Conflict Resolution
  • Education
  • Parenting & Family
  • Social Change
I enjoy how I can make a difference in the lives of parents, couples, teachers, business teams, volunteer groups and more … the NVC principles can be applied in so many situations; communication is everywhere!
“If you experience a ‘click’ after reading my above words, reach out to me and let’s see how I can share my passion for NVC with you. 💜”

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