WHAT: Live, NVC coaching using situations with our teens. We support each other on our parenting journeys using collaborative parenting principles and strategies.

WHEN: Every other Friday morning from 8:15-9:45 AM, PST / 11:15-12:45PM, EST

Financial Contribution: 100$-$200 (per 2 calls a month)
Creating a sliding scale supports our capacity to sustain our work and continue to serve. It also helps us include those without the financial resources to participate. Please consider contributing at the higher end of the scale and beyond, if you have the resources and willingness to do so.

While we make our request for support known, we invite you to choose an amount within your financial capacity, including below the minimum requested.

For questions and registration contact: Aya Caspi, [email protected]

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~ Rita Emmer
" I found Aya miraculously after a friend introduced me to NVC.  I’m an older, single mom of a twice gifted 13 year old.  Our house was rarely peaceful before NVC and Aya.   I thought the problem was that she was “difficult” and I just didn’t know how to parent to that, how to set boundaries, expectations, create structure.  I felt like a failure.  Then I started implementing what Aya was teaching: collaboration, connection, deep listening, guessing her feelings and needs.  Listening to other parents on the video calls and how she was coaching them through similar struggles.  Being coached on my own challenges.  Aya taught the importance of being my child’s ally and not siding with the teachers….no wonder our trust was strained, I almost always sided with the teachers.  Building that “ally trust” started changing our relationship.  Aya guided me through seeing much of her “misbehavior” (i.e. poor eating habits) as her need for autonomy, and how to safely gift her age-appropriate independence and autonomy.  I learned to recognize my “authoritarian tone” and learned that when/if I use that tone, it was very unlikely that either of us would get our needs met.  I learned how to restore trust to our relationship when I used that tone by really considering HER feelings and needs then having “do-overs”.  It worked!  My heart was so happy that I was connecting instead of alienating.  Once my daughter and I started connecting, I really listened, she started opening up about school, homework, questions about sex, gender identity, friends exploring their gender identity, questions about me when I was her age.   I just kept listening. She hasn’t threatened suicide nor hurt herself.  She on occasion will help out without being asked. I’ve gone from being the mother she wanted to run away from to the parent she and her friends now deem as the  “supportive mom”.   Amazing, simply amazing. "

~Ratika Dayaldasani
“ Thank you for the support you are offering me on my mothering journey through your coaching and recorded classes. My capacity for meeting myself with radical self-compassion (understanding how impossible the task of parenting in the nuclear family, domination structures that I'm in) is greatly enhanced.  This, in turn, helps me repair breaks in trust with my kids with grace and ease. I am able to accept the limitations of my capacity and choose strategies to do the best I can to meet needs in the moment, mourning unmet needs. There is such a difference in the quality of exchanges I have been having with my children since I started learning from you! My sons are inviting me into their lives. Even if we don't spend too much time together, in the 5 minutes we are driving with each other, there is a new found flow! You have brought the assumption of needs-based innocence more to the forefront of my consciousness. I was in so much pain in the last few years, seeing the gap between my NVC values and my application. But I am so much more in integrity and alignment with my values now, due to how I see you living and integrating NVC. Today, on Mother's Day, I am celebrating my commitment to this most cherished part of my life, and how you are supporting it. For the contributions you have made to my family, I pray that the Divine bestows abundant blessings upon your family. ”

~Adam Pitera, UK
“ I've been part of Aya's parenting workshops for a year and a half now, her approach makes sense in a way that sets you at ease. Parenting teenagers has always been a challenge, but Aya offers something different - a clear, grounded way forward that allows people to truly connect to their teens. What touches me most is how she and her group held space for me during a really difficult time. There's both strength and gentleness in her guidance that helped me find my footing again. Her support offered me a sense of grounding when I needed it most, and helped me discover a more authentic connection with my teen. I'm deeply grateful to have found such an honest and caring mentor on this journey. ”

~Beth S.
“ My husband, teenage son and I have been meeting with Aya for for 5 months.  We worked with a family therapist for several months prior to starting with Aya.  We weren't making the progress we had hoped for, so we decided to try NVC with Aya.  When we started our situation was very stressful, and it seemed like it was going nowhere.  However, during our very first session, we had our most heartwarming conversation since our challenges started .  And then by applying NVC principles in our household and having conversations together with Aya weekly, we started seeing breakthroughs. Recently our son graduated from high school, has a responsible job working 30 hours a week, and spends lots of time with friends.  Six months ago this didn't seem possible.Aya also encouraged me to do some 1:1 work with her.  I resisted at first as I wanted my daughter to be able to work with Aya.  Eventually, I decided to prioritize myself too.  I have made huge breakthroughs already -- letting go of shame that was impacting me, my son, and the whole family.I am so happy we found Aya.  I can't recommend her highly enough! ”

~Rachel

Thank you, Aya. I need to thank you again for the class you facilitated in Truckee a few weeks ago. I got so much out of it and have seen amazing results putting it all into practice with my family. The information and understanding I took away from your class was so valuable and life-enriching for me, and is a gift I would love to be able to give my family so we can all work together to promote NVC and connection within our family and our world. ”

~Andreea Federspiel-Otelea, RN, mom of 9 1/2 old daughter
“ During a conflict moment with my pre-teenage daughter, we called Aya for help towards communication. She explained slowly and clearly the use of NVC for a child's understanding, and provided a setting where we could hear each other and discover our misunderstandings. I found Aya's help very crucial at that moment, where a potential escalating conflict could be prevented and redirected constructively through communication. I had the feeling that through her service, I could re-establish a new contact level to my child again, which otherwise would have probably been lost, as it happens to many teenage or pre-teenage families, especially in single parent families, like my own. ”

~Kim Howitt
“ I have been part of Aya's NVC parenting group for many years. In fact, it's hard to imagine going through this parenting journey without her wise empathetic guidance and this loving understanding community by my side. This group has had a profound impact on not only my mothering, but on all of my relationships. I've learned to break open old hurtful dynamics and connect with my children in deeply meaningful and holistic ways... to see and love them fully. And NVC's very tangible process for communicating helps my family to move through difficult times with a sense of presence, understanding, authenticity and genuine holding. All of my relationships have had profound transformations as I gain a deeper understanding of the NVC principles. I feel so blessed to be in a community of mothers reaching towards our shared vision of family and community that heals and grows together. Thank you Aya for guiding us through it all! ”

~Zoe Dorey, Portugal
“ Meeting Aya has been nothing short of life changing for me.  As a human, a partner, and a parent.  Not only do I feel completely seen and heard by her, but she offers very practical tools for helping solve family conflicts.  She is helping me grow into the parent and human being that I long to be, and I cherish the time I get to spend with heI love to be with Aya and her deep knowledge on NVC. It just seems so embodied and possible to walk the talk! My relationship with my 17 year old daughter is very much transforming due to Aya’s work. I began to believe that the connection I am longing for with my daughter is possible. And how good to also work on my guilt of not having the tools as I raised her… it’s a life process and it has a clear direction now! This work is really revolutionary, gentle, and possible! ”

~Jessie Austin, USA
“ Meeting Aya has been nothing short of life changing for me.  As a human, a partner, and a parent.  Not only do I feel completely seen and heard by her, but she offers very practical tools for helping solve family conflicts.  She is helping me grow into the parent and human being that I long to be, and I cherish the time I get to spend with her every month. ”

~Jo Guz, Scotland
“ The parenting group has been a safe place to bring the things about parenting that feel the hardest, to be able to connect more deeply with my own longings & positive intent and, from that place to be more able to work with others in a way that takes care of all that’s needed in a more enlivening way.  I’ve found it to be a place of healing and have really enjoyed being in a space full of care and also a space of learning.  It’s been reinvigorating! ”

~April Cretzman, California
“ Aya Caspi’s offering of NVC Teen Parenting Group was extremely beneficial to my relationship with my 12 year old. In a short amount of time, I was able to see from his perspective and begin to foster more authentic communication. Together we were able to acknowledge feelings, share view points, and brainstorm compromises that worked for both of us.  My son also began to use NCV language through my modeling. The group format felt very supportive and it was helpful to have shared experiences with other parents. I highly recommend this group! ”

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Based in Northern California, Aya Caspi brings her unique blend of vision, practical clarity, and deep commitment to the transformative power of Nonviolent Communication to settings as varied as schools, parenting, couples counseling, mediation, nonprofit organizations, social change communities, and media.
Aya has served as an educational consultant on several preschool series, creating original curricula and advising on show development and scripting. Her client list includes Warner Bros., Discovery Media, 9 Story Media Group, Cartoon Saloon, Field Day Entertainment, the Cartoon Network, and Max.
Aya has been sharing the work of NVC internationally via online classes and in-person retreats. She continually grapples with the joys and challenges of being raised in Israel and finds deep open hope in applying NVC to the context of the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. 

To learn more: www.reclaiminglifenvc.com