我设想，世界各地有足够多的人能够积极应对他们所面临的冲突，共同创造一个健康、可持续、与地球上所有生命和谐共处的世界。

John Kinyon knows that conflict can be daunting — so daunting that often, we handle it unconstructively, or we avoid it altogether. But John sees conflict as an opportunity. Through Nonviolent Communication, he has devoted his life and career to furthering human connection and cooperation around the world through empathic communication.

MYL培训

在线培训课程：

• 引导自己应对冲突
  (MYL) 之旅，包含三个为期 8 周的课程
• 引导他人应对冲突
  MYL调解与冲突辅导项目，包括两个为期6个月的培训课程

线下静修活动：

• www.mediateyourlife.com。​。请网站 

另请参阅 John的以下资源：

• 的 John 写书
• MYL播客
• MYL 指南
• MYL 的感受和需求海报

冥想你的生活

John 一生大部分时间都生活在美国旧金山湾区，之后他离开沿海地区五年，前往宾夕法尼亚州立大学攻读临床心理学博士学位。在那里，他潜心研究人本主义心理学家卡尔·罗杰斯的著作。 “我非常喜欢罗杰斯关于人际关系的理论，以及他如何构建一段疗愈、健康且充满成长的关系，” John 回忆道。在研究圣雄甘地和马丁·路德·金的著作时。他也发现自己被非暴力作为一种社会变革的方式所吸引。 “我发现这是一种令人无比动容、充满力量的应对暴力和冲突、并尝试创造改变的方式。 ”

寻找非暴力沟通

完成研究生学业后，他回到湾区，努力寻找一条能将工作、人际关系和非暴力结合起来的道路。 “这两件事我都非常非常热衷，但我不知道该如何将它们结合起来。 ”

后来，在参加一次调解会议时， John的人生发生了改变。 “那家伙站起来开始讲话，”他笑着回忆道。 “他带着木偶，画出头与心脏相连的示意图。我当时就。感觉就像拨云见日。时间。静止了。 ”

那个人是NVC的创始人， Marshall Rosenberg。

通过非暴力沟通化解冲突

John admits that he grew up avoiding conflict, taking on the role of “being the nice guy, the people-pleaser.” But when he married, he soon understood that he’d have to find a way to navigate conflict if he wanted his marriage to survive and thrive. Through his work with Marshall Rosenberg and NVC, he found a way to understand “the way we communicate that triggers us into the part of the brain that’s about violence, and fighting and fleeing, and all the traumas that we carry, and all the most difficult places that we can go as human beings with ourselves and each other.” John had found a way to combine his passions for empathetic communication and nonviolence. He “jumped in head first, dove into the work.” The result was a transformation.

作为调解员

John worked closely under Marshall Rosenberg’s mentorship for more than a decade. With the help of his mentor’s guiding hand, John co-founded the Bay Area NVC organization, BayNVC, and co-created the Mediate Your Life (MYL) training program and company, rooted in the work of NVC. For more than twenty years John has developed and delivered MYL training throughout the U.S. and in countries around the world in Europe, Asia, and Australia. He facilitates a global online community and offers online and in-person training workshops, courses, and programs internationally.

John’s approach provides conversation “maps” for navigating challenges and conflicts, inner and outer, in all aspects of life. He works with individuals and organizations as a trainer, coach, and mediator, and is an author and speaker. Most recently, he entered a collaboration with a new nonprofit, the Harmonic Mediation Society. In addition to his work with individuals and the community, he is excited to help organizations navigate difficult conversations.

一段精神之旅

灵性也是 John人生旅程中至关重要的一部分。在旧金山大学读本科期间，他经历了一次深刻的灵性体验，此后便开始探索和研究世界各地众多伟大的灵性与神秘传统、导师以及冥想实践。近年来，他更加深入、热情地探索意识、非二元和二元正念觉知的实践，以及如何将这些实践与科学和社会变革相结合。

John 和妻子谢娜婚姻美满，他们共同养育了三个孩子。 访问 John的网站 了解更多关于他的信息。

冲突是激烈的。是残酷的。是痛苦的。它会唤起所有的伤痛和创伤。这无疑是一项艰巨的任务。然而，如果我们懂得非暴力沟通的技巧，如果我们拥有应对冲突的指南和支持机制，我们就能点石成金。我们就能找到冲突另一端宝藏中的黄金、宝石和珍宝。

“对我而言，我将冲突——或者说重新定义冲突——视为人生旅程的一部分，是我们如何面对逆境、挑战和困难的过程。 ”

MYL培训项目和活动：:

在线培训课程：

• 引导自己应对冲突
  (MYL) 之旅，包含三个为期 8 周的课程
• 引导他人应对冲突
  MYL调解与冲突辅导项目，包括两个为期6个月的培训课程

线下静修活动：

• www.mediateyourlife.com。​。请网站 

另请参阅 John的以下资源：

• 的 John 写书
• MYL应用程序
• MYL播客
• MYL 指南
• MYL 的感受和需求海报