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title: "Understanding Ourselves Through Anger & Reactivity - Center for Nonviolent Communication"
description: "Stephanie Bachmann Mattei's workshop on NVC addresses anger as a sign of unmet needs, emphasizing self-regulation and care. She advocates befriending anger for self-understanding, using brain science and exercises to transform the emotion's impact."
url: "https://www.cnvc.org/video-library/understanding-ourselves-through-anger-reactivity"
date: "2026-09-19T18:09:33+00:00"
language: "en-US"
---

#  Understanding Ourselves Through Anger & Reactivity

**Stephanie Bachmann Mattei** - Length: 1h:05m - English

**Topic Areas:** Counseling & Coaching, Education, Health & Healing, Mind-Body-Spirit

 In this insightful workshop, Stephanie Bachmann Mattei explores the complex nature of anger and reactivity through the lens of Nonviolent Communication . She delves into understanding anger as an indicator of unmet needs and a signal for self-regulation and self-care. Stephanie emphasizes the importance of befriending anger to gain deeper self-understanding and highlights the role of brain science in managing emotional responses. Through practical exercises and group discussions, participants learn to approach anger with curiosity, compassion, and a deeper awareness of their needs, transforming their relationship with this intense emotion.