--- title: "Ruth Wafler - Center for Nonviolent Communication" description: "Ruth Wafler" url: "https://www.cnvc.org/trainers/ruth-wafler" date: "2026-09-18T06:26:22+00:00" language: "en-US" --- ![Ruth Wafler Portrait](https://www.cnvc.org/images/portraits/certified-trainers/Ruth-Wafler.jpeg) # Ruth Wafler # Certified Trainer since 2024 Speaks English, German Current Country: Austria Country of Origin: Austria I work as a primary school teacher in a diverse class in which socially and emotionally disadvantaged and well-supported children from families with a wide variety of backgrounds learn together. In this heterogeneity, forming a community where everyone feels safe and welcome is a daily challenge. Nonviolent Communication helps me with this. I am so grateful that I am now finding ways to see everyone and support parents and children in becoming a community. I can help all children to develop their potential and their very special strengths. In my life with my family: The giraffe sits at our table. It helps me remember that everything we do meets a need. My 15-year-old son keeps choosing strategies that challenge or trigger me. Again and again, I see my topics consciously so I can develop and find out what I really want. The most important thing for me is to stay connected, no matter how high the waves are; I can practice that with him so often. Giving my 9 year-old foster daughter security and love and, at the same time, giving her the guidance she needs is something I can bring to awareness and reflect on again and again with Nonviolent Communication. Especially the contact with her biological parents, who are unfortunately mentally ill and traumatized, challenges me. I see their great pain and their needs and, at the same time, the needs of my foster daughter and our family, and we have a strong need for protection and security. I am so grateful that I can feel deep empathy for her parents and at the same time, apply protective power. For my need for personal freedom and autonomy, I used to choose the strategy of living in open relationships. I've only been in a monogamous relationship for three years. (How lucky that my companion also loves and lives the NVC!) Sensing my needs and making courageous, honest requests is an adventure and a great field of learning for me, as am always taking full responsibility for my needs and letting him take responsibility for his needs as well. Above all, however, I have discovered that I find the freedom I seek within myself by accepting myself and letting myself be as I am. As an NVC trainer, I also work with people (often educators) who do not do NVC training voluntarily. I am also grateful to be able to work with these people who are skeptical of NVC. Adapting to them and feeling in the moment what they need and how I can reach them so that a connection is created between us challenges me, and I find it exciting. Share this page: - [](mailto:?body=Hi%20check%20out%20this%20trainer%21&subject=Check%20out%20this%20Certified%20Trainer%20with%20the%20Center%20for%20Nonviolent%20Communication%21) - [](https://www.facebook.com/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnvc.org%2Ftrainers%2Fruth-wafler "Share on Facebook") - [](https://api.whatsapp.com/send?text=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnvc.org%2Ftrainers%2Fruth-wafler "Share on Whatsapp") - [](https://x.com/intent/post?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnvc.org%2Ftrainers%2Fruth-wafler&text= "Share on Twitter") - [](https://www.linkedin.com/sharing/share-offsite/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnvc.org%2Ftrainers%2Fruth-wafler "Share on Linkedin") - [](http://pinterest.com/pin/create/button/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnvc.org%2Ftrainers%2Fruth-wafler "share on Pinterest") ### TRAINING FOCUS: - Children - Conflict Resolution - Education - General - Intimate Relationships - Mind-Body-Spirit - Parenting & Family # Contact Ruth Wafler First name \* Last name \* Email Address \* Country \* United States Your Message \* Turnstile \* ![](https://www.cnvc.org/templates/yootheme/assets/images/consent_placeholder_map.svg) ![](https://www.cnvc.org/templates/yootheme/assets/images/consent_icon_openstreetmap.svg)OpenStreetMap service required to load this map. ![](https://www.cnvc.org/templates/yootheme/assets/images/consent_icon_openstreetmap.svg)OpenStreetMap service required to load this map.