--- title: "Rob Eames - Center for Nonviolent Communication" description: "Rob Eames" url: "https://www.cnvc.org/trainers/rob-eames" date: "2026-09-18T06:25:34+00:00" language: "en-US" --- ![Rob Eames portrait](https://www.cnvc.org/images/portraits/certified-trainers/Rob-Eames.jpeg) # Rob Eames # Certified Trainer since 2023 MA (Psychology) Speaks English Current Country: United States Country of Origin: United States # Compassionate Communication for Enlivening Relationships Relationships can be sources of our deepest meaning and support. They also touch our most vulnerable places. I coach people in their most important relationships, to show up with self-compassion & compassion for others, honesty, and integrity. For me, Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is not a set of communication skills - it’s a way of living and relating. At its heart, NVC supports us in understanding our feelings, connecting to what’s most important for us & others, and sharing & deciding to promote our foundational needs for connection & interdependence. As a CNVC Certified Trainer and Relationship Coach, I work primarily with couples and individuals who want to communicate more honestly, understand themselves and each other more deeply, and create relationships with greater connection, compassion, and vitality. NVC is at the heart of my approach. My work also draws from Internal Family Systems (IFS), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB), mindfulness, and practical relationship skills. Special areas of focus for me include: - welcoming our emotional experiences with the resilience of regulation & co-regulation strategies, - healing together in relationships, growing in the [core skills of compassionate communication](https://pathwaystoliberation.com/the-matrix/), - being a regular warm, loving presence when we connect with ourselves (through self-empathy & self-compassion), and - grounding in the key distinction between what happened and our responses through the skills of observing & noticing patterns in our elaborations. Through [Couples Focus](https://www.couplesfocus.com), I offer relationship coaching for couples and individuals. I also lead virtual and in-person workshops and practice groups, with in-person programs primarily in the Greater Philadelphia area. Upcoming offerings are listed on my [events calendar](https://robeames.com/events-calendar/). For those who wish to learn & practice whenever and wherever there’s an internet connection, I offer on-demand courses through [Relational Academy](https://www.relationalacademy.com). To learn more about me, please scroll down this page for videos, materials I've created, and other resources. To connect with me about coaching or learning opportunities, please [contact me](https://robeames.com/contact/). # Resources, Writings, and Offerings ## [Resources](https://robeames.com/materials/) - [Nonviolent Communication Overview Graphic (4 components in 3 modes)](https://robeames.com/nonviolent-communication-overview-modes-and-components/) - Nonviolent Communication (NVC) has 3 modes (Self-Empathy, Empathy, and Honest Self-Expression) consisting of the same 4 components. Below is a handy graphical reference. Download the graphic for your reference & use. - [Six (6) Categories of Requests](https://robeames.com/6-types-of-requests/) - Requests are powerful. My experience is that fluency in six categories of requests helps in practicing real-time consideration of what to propose. By expanding the ways we ask - for connection, information, understanding, feedback, brainstorming, or action - it helps marry everyone's needs to a specific doable proposal. - [The U Turn Strategy for shifting out of the 'Blame Game'](https://robeames.com/the-u-turn/) - Instead of what’s wrong with others, the U Turn strategy invites more connection, understanding, & collaboration by refocusing on your experience, needs, & proposals. The "blame game," automatically focuses on what's wrong and who's at fault. Blaming others can contribute to feeling disconnected and powerless. The U Turn offers another path: noticing our judgments, pausing, and turning inward to reconnect with the Needs and Requests that matter most. ## [Writings](https://robeames.com/blog/) - [The Role of Emotions](https://robeames.com/role-of-emotions/) (Emotions for Couples series) - What if your emotions aren’t problems to solve but signals to understand? Fear, anger, sadness, guilt, and anxiety may each be trying to direct your attention toward something important. In this article, you’ll learn a simple framework for becoming curious about your emotional experiences so you can respond with greater clarity, wisdom, and intention instead of reacting automatically. - > [Companion Video](https://youtu.be/4LgMlF9Dj-Y) - [A Shared Understanding of Emotions for Couples](https://robeames.com/shared-understanding-of-emotions/) (Emotions for Couples series) - Emotions really matter in romantic relationships. Deepening our understanding of emotions, along with developing reliable ways to respond to them, can have a profound impact on our relationships. I introduce a simple framework for understanding emotional experiences and offer a practical exercise you can use with your partner. -> [Companion Video](https://youtu.be/QahVBlN--Pw) - [Two Levels of Every Interaction](https://robeames.com/two-levels-of-every-interaction/) - Every interaction has two levels: the content level (what’s being discussed) and the relational level (how it feels). Tracking and contributing to both levels is a life-changing approach … - [Positive Framing](https://robeames.com/positive-framing/) - Positive Framing is a small shift with big potential impact – speaking about what you do want instead of what’s wrong. Learn how couples use positive framing to bring more clarity, ease, and connection into every conversation. - [Shifting Out of the Blame Game](https://robeames.com/the-u-turn-shifting-out-of-blame/) - The U Turn is a strategy for shifting out of the ‘blame game.’ Instead of what’s wrong with others, this strategy invites more connection, understanding, & collaboration by refocusing on your experience, needs, & proposals. - [Six Categories of Requests](https://robeames.com/asking-for-what-i-want-6-categories-of-requests/) - Requests are powerful ways to invite more support & collaboration to what’s most important to you. Learn & use this helpful framework of 6 categories of Requests for connecting to what you want in real-time. - [How Resourced Am I?](https://robeames.com/how-resourced-am-i/) - When we’re tired, stressed, or upset, conversations can become harder than we expect – skills and compassion are less accessible. This article explores how monitoring, contributing to, and responding to your level of “resourcedness” contributes to more connecting interactions. ## [Videos](https://robeames.com/videos/) - [Emotions for Couples: The Role of Emotions](https://youtu.be/4LgMlF9Dj-Y) (~20 mins duration) - What if your emotions aren’t problems to solve but signals to understand? Fear, anger, sadness, guilt, and anxiety may each be trying to direct your attention toward something important. In this article, you’ll learn a simple framework for becoming curious about your emotional experiences so you can respond with greater clarity, wisdom, and intention instead of reacting automatically. - [Pain Talk - What it is and what to do about it](https://youtu.be/8c1raFTexfU) (~20 mins) - When we’re overwhelmed, pain can grab the mic, and what comes out is likely not what we want others to know. This video offers practical ways to recognize pain talk, pause before it leads to hurt and misunderstandings, and translate accusations into the feelings, needs, and messages underneath. - [How Resourced Am I?](https://youtu.be/QRVex8jVL1Q) - When we’re tired, stressed, or upset, conversations can become harder than we expect – skills and compassion are less accessible. This video explores how monitoring, contributing to, and responding to your level of “resourcedness” contributes to more connecting interactions. - [A Shared Understanding of Emotions for Couples](https://youtu.be/6Dbhcu2S-Ek) (~ 30 mins duration) - Emotions really matter in romantic relationships. Deepening our understanding of emotions, along with developing reliable ways to respond to them, can have a profound impact on our relationships. I introduce a simple framework for understanding emotional experiences and offer a practical exercise you can use with your partner. - [Shifting Out of the Blame Game: The U Turn Strategy](https://youtu.be/eH-t4P4U6G4?si=xpOLNC9AO740xbhQ) (~10 mins duration) - The U Turn is a strategy for shifting out of the 'blame game.' Instead of what's wrong with others, this strategy invites more connection, understanding, & collaboration by refocusing on your experience, needs, & proposals. - [Positive Framing](https://youtu.be/uh4eN5jrP2o) (~20 mins duration) - Positive Framing is a small shift with big potential impact - speaking about what you do want instead of what’s wrong. This article shows how couples can use it to bring more clarity, ease, and connection into every conversation. - [Needs Consciousness: Mindfulness of Strategies](https://youtu.be/e1ethXX69dk?si=pxKGuvOwu3ONoXFW) (~20 mins duration) - What if every choice you make - every habit, impulse, and longing - is actually a doorway into understanding what matters most? In this short video, I share why Needs Consciousness completely changed my life, and how ‘mindfulness of strategies’ simple moments of curiosity, acceptance, & understanding, can reshape clarity, agency, and connection. ## Standard Offerings - [The Emotions Course for Couples](https://robeames.com/the-emotions-course-for-couples/) - The Emotions Course for Couples is a practical workshop designed to help couples better understand emotions and develop the skills to work with them effectively, both individually and together. - [Nonviolent Communication for Couples](https://courses.relationalacademy.com/courses/nvcforcouples) (on-demand course with my friend & colleague, [Lisa Gottlieb](https://www.cnvc.org/trainers/lisa-gottlieb)) - Learn & practice the foundations of NVC with your partner! In this course, we'll share practical skills to co-create reliable connection & intimacy with your partner. Instead of providing 'cookie cutter' strategies for specific scenarios, these skills empower you two to approach any challenge, resolve conflicts, and celebrate what's going well. ### Related - [ **Self-Empathy Circles** (Trainer Event 11-05-2026) ](https://www.cnvc.org/learn/events/self-empathy-circles-2026-11-05-17-00-00) - [ **Self-Connection: Observation as an Insight Practice** (Trainer Event 11-04-2026) ](https://www.cnvc.org/learn/events/self-connection-observation-as-an-insight-practice-2026-11-04-12-00-00) - [ **The Emotions Course for Couples** (Trainer Event 10-17-2026) ](https://www.cnvc.org/learn/events/the-emotions-course-for-couples-2026-10-17-10-00-00) Share this page: - [](mailto:?body=Hi%20check%20out%20this%20trainer%21&subject=Check%20out%20this%20Certified%20Trainer%20with%20the%20Center%20for%20Nonviolent%20Communication%21) - [](https://www.facebook.com/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnvc.org%2Ftrainers%2Frob-eames "Share on Facebook") - [](https://api.whatsapp.com/send?text=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnvc.org%2Ftrainers%2Frob-eames "Share on Whatsapp") - [](https://x.com/intent/post?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnvc.org%2Ftrainers%2Frob-eames&text= "Share on Twitter") - [](https://www.linkedin.com/sharing/share-offsite/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnvc.org%2Ftrainers%2Frob-eames "Share on Linkedin") - [](http://pinterest.com/pin/create/button/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnvc.org%2Ftrainers%2Frob-eames "share on Pinterest") ### TRAINING FOCUS: - Conflict Resolution - Counseling & Coaching - Education - Facilitation - General - Intimate Relationships - Mind-Body-Spirit [ Trainer's Website ](https://robeames.com) [ LINKEDIN PROFILE ](https://www.linkedin.com/in/robeames/) # Contact Rob Eames First name \* Last name \* Email Address \* Country \* Philippines Your Message \* Turnstile \* ![](https://www.cnvc.org/templates/yootheme/assets/images/consent_placeholder_map.svg) ![](https://www.cnvc.org/templates/yootheme/assets/images/consent_icon_openstreetmap.svg)OpenStreetMap service required to load this map. ![](https://www.cnvc.org/templates/yootheme/assets/images/consent_icon_openstreetmap.svg)OpenStreetMap service required to load this map.