Vika Miller

I first encountered Compassionate/Nonviolent Communication (NVC) around the year 2000. Learning that feelings were pointing to needs met/unmet was like a lightning bolt for me; it was the missing piece that finally made everything make sense. Seeing myself, Life, and others through the lens of NVC, I was finally able to develop a compassionate, friendly relationship with my shame, and come to feel at home with my own humanity. In recent years I've been thrilled again by the latest findings from Interpersonal Neurobiology and Attachment Theory. When these are integrated with NVC, we finally understand: why we can't do NVC when we're upset what stress really is, and why it's so dangerous for our health and relationships what really, truly dissolves our automaticity and reactivity why compassionate, authentic, resonant community is essential for our well-being reliable pathways to feeling more calm, peaceful, and genuinely happy Thriving Life principles, distinctions, tools, and practices create the sense of belonging, being fully and authentically gotten and welcomed (from what is most magnificent to us, to our warts and farts and ugly parts, and everything in between), attunement, security-beyond-circumstances, and thriving that I believe is our birthright. I hope you'll come share the journey and the joy of real belonging with our Thriving Life NVC community. Blessings on us all, Vika Miller, MA CNVC Certification Candidate   FREE VIDEOS: I like to explain and explore this inner and interpersonal territory in natural, easy-to-understand ways that skip the weirdness of following special formulas for how to say things that feels so awkward and that can so easily put people off. The Secret to Happiness:  Intro to Thriving Life NVC/Compassionate Communication (or, Human Being 101, 9.5 minutes). There's a nice, detailed written overview of NVC at this is page, as well.  NOTE: In January/February 2016 I intend to have the video of my half-day Intro to NVC and Thriving Relationships workshop available online at my website, www.thrivinglifenvc.org. Click here and write me a message if you'd like to get an email notice when it's ready.   How Our Broken Toes Sabotage Our Relationships (8 minutes).  This video alone often provides couples and individuals a huge revelation about what's going wrong in their relationships, and can do a lot to help reduce the intensity of upsets pretty much immediately.     How to Stop Saying and Doing Things You Regret Later (11 minutes).  This video shares an essential skill that transforms everything, and is the next video mentioned in the Broken Toe video.   The 3 Essential Elements of Healthy Boundaries (6.5 minutes).  Another video that offers a guide to essential elements of NVC, from a very practical, common sense angle.   Key Signs You've Lost Your Boundaries (6 minutes).  An eye-opening look at all some of the most common signs that we don't realize are alerting us that we or someone else is in that disconnection consciousness that causes all the trouble.   CURRENT OFFERINGS: Compassionate Noticing Mindfulness Practice -- a superb way to develop our capacity to make NVC observations!  (Portland, Oregon; Phone)   Presence Practice Groups (Portland, Oregon; live video distance learning)   Free Introduction to NVC, Brain Science, and Thriving Relationships (Portland, Oregon; live video distance learning)   Basic Skills #1: Brain Calming Techniques  (Portland, Oregon; live video distance learning)   Basic Skills #2:  Brain Rewiring Essentials & Demo  (Portland, Oregon; live video distance learning)   NVC Fundamentals/Healthy Boundaries Seminar (Portland, Oregon; live video distance learning)   Amazing Relationships Fundamentals Seminar (Portland, Oregon; live video distance learning)   The Power to Thrive (Portland, Oregon; live video distance learning)   Personal and Relationship Coaching (Portland, Oregon; Skype/Zoom Video; phone)   Business Development Coaching and Consulting (Portland, Oregon; Skype/Zoom Video; nationally by invitation)   Culture Change Coaching and Consulting (Portland, Oregon; nationally by invitation)   CLICK HERE for BLOG ENTRIES   The American Medical Association (AMA) acknowledges stress as the #1 cause of disease and death among Americans.