Peer Supporter, Counselor

1830 Culver Drive
London ON N5V 3K6

Areas of Interest
Emotional Intelligence
Social Change
Spiritual Growth
Violence Prevention
Youth Programs
Spoken Languages
Training Countries
Public Message

I started learning NVC in order to help my children who have Tourette's and OCD. In the process I found that NVC helped me overcome my own depression and deal with issues stemming from my own traumatic childhood. NVC has enriched the lives of myself, my family, and my friends. I see such a great need for NVC awareness and training in the world. Now it is my desire to connect with others in my local community who share my NVC excitement. I'd really like to share my experience with others, such as parents who are facing challenging situations with their own children, and with individuals who are experiencing depression and other mental difficulties. Some of my endeavours over the past few years have included modeling a compassionate and empathic approach to parenting children, especially children whose special needs and escalating behaviours have become quite confusing, worrisome, or stressful to their adult care-givers, as well as animating a weekly, peer-led support group for men who have struggled to overcome the shame, stigma, and life-long social challenges that arise from having been sexually accosted and traumatized as children. Currently I have the privilege of providing compassionate support and empathic listening to persons who are trying to heal after having experienced various forms of trauma within religious groups and organizations, and in particular, those who have been deeply hurt by, during, and after their contact or involvement with the Jehovah's Witnesses organization. (Just as an example, do an internet search for: sexual abuse Jehovah's Witnesses Australian Royal Commission) Having personally experienced the specific kinds of trauma, pain, fear, hurt, doubt, confusion, distrust, panic, distress, and acute isolation that frequently results from having been involved with the JW organization, I intimately appreciate the incapacitating vulnerability and explosive reactivity that others experience when they try to survive in and/or leave a toxic environment that focuses almost exclusively on looking for and emphasizing the flaws, faults, and wrongness of everyone--including one's self. Needless to say, it's not easy for these pained individuals. And so I find that it's often a significant challenge to help these hurting individuals to heal, and to assist them in learning to replace the vivid enemy images that they have developed of themselves and others with a healthier compassion for themselves and others. It's especially difficult for them to process the many intense emotions they have towards all the ones who have hurt them. I cannot imagine endeavouring to support these individuals without utilizing empathy, compassion, patience, gentleness, and all the NVC skills and concepts I've been practicing over the last couple of decades. Please feel free to contact me. I'd love to hear from you!