Allan Rohlfs

counseling and psychotherapy, mediation, teaching

206 Auburn Ave
Sierra Madre, CA 91024
United States

Areas of Interest
Distance Learning
Emotional Intelligence
Restorative Justice
Social Change
Spiritual Growth
Violence Prevention
Spoken Languages
Public Message

I've been connected with Marshall and NVC since 1972, even before Marshall called it NVC.  As soon as I took my first workshop in March, 1973, I began teaching (passing along) what I knew.  Forty plus years later I still do.  


I'd like all trainers to know empathic listening as I know it and as it differs from NVC empathy so they know when to do what to be the most helpful. I'd also like all trainers to know the interaction between experiencing and speaking because this will influence all teaching and helping, increasing everyone's effectiveness, I believe, whether new or experienced. What I'd like is for every trainer who's interested to send me a recording of themself when they are empathizing with another along with a transcript of at least 10 minutes of that recording. I'd then like to give my feedback regarding what I know as a focusing-oriented and client centered therapist about what responses are most helpful or give suggestions about what I believe to be more helpful, what I mean by empathic listening.


Having over 40 years association with NVC, the longest standing trainer by several years, and over 40 years as a psychotherapist taught by Eugene Gendlin and client centered therapists (Carl Rogers) my emphasis and special skill is in empathic listening, and theoretically in the interaction between experiencing (feeling) and speaking and concepts. I want everyone to know this, but particularly NVC trainers because both above underlie all of NVC even though neither is the emphasis of NVC. As such I'd like to pass along what I know to trainers as well as to learn what other trainers know, whether new or experienced. Such knowing is immensely valuable as Marshall himself opened many trainer meetings over my 40 years with him by saying, What is this, NVC? How do you describe it? I've been trying to understand it and say what it is.