Jack Lehman, MA, MA, LPCC

https://JackLehman.org

Santa Fe, NM 87508
United States

Areas of Interest
Anger
Counseling
Distance Learning
Emotional Intelligence
Healing
Healthcare
Mediation/Resolution
Parenting
Relationships
Restorative Justice
Social Change
Spiritual Growth
Violence Prevention
Spoken Languages
English
French
Training Countries
Argentina
Iceland
Thailand
United States
Public Message

I was born 47 in an Italian neighborhood, which was turning into a black one, within view of the Statue of Liberty. My Dad was a mortar gunner in Pattons 4th Armored Division. His experiences in combat and of course his own childhood prior to it, made violence a major theme in my childhood. Fighting was glorified, anger and violence were modeled, and dogmatic theology was promulgated. In '69 I went to Europe where I spent 3 years and scratched my productivity itch. I took a Masters in Philosophy at the Sorbonne, University of Paris, and at the same time, most of another in French Lit. at NYU in Paris.  I trained in Karate, eventually reaching 3rd degree black belt,  became fluent in French and conversational in Italian. I spent the next 10 years in Asia where I had some significant realizations. The most important happened in Daramsala, where I was taking teachings at the Tibetan Library. I read J Krishnamurti and realized that my fundamental modus operandi in life, which was based on physical and intellectual domination, would never get me where I wanted to go. In fact, most of my thinking was actually a form of suffering. That blew my mind. The way out of this suffering is the process of choiceless observation, which has been my main practice since that time in 74. Living in Rajneeshs (aka Osho) commune in Poona, India, and later in Oregon, afforded me a place to test out this model of inquiry and make many other experiments. In those years I learned about the interface of meditation and sexuality, about power, jealousy, conflict, how to celebrate everything including death, and had my deepest experiences of letting go and unconditional love, not to mention punching cows and riding horses! I moved to Santa Fe, NM in 85 and spent a lot of time in what I could call mens work which was essentially reclaiming parts of myself that I had pushed back into the shadow, things like fear, shame and grief. Anger was a kind of cap on the well of these deep painful emotions and beliefs. Sitting in mens circles helped me get more clarity about how I was holding all this together and at what price. I went back to school again in 94 for an MA in counseling psychology. I wanted more meaning in my life and saw psychotherapy as a way to contribute to others in the context of right livelihood. In 95 I listened to a cassette tape of Marshall Rosenberg on anger, which again blew my mind. He taught me that I alone am the cause of my anger, and everything else I feel. This insight helped me integrate my default emotion, which had been eating my lunch for over 50 years. NVC has also given me a very succinct way of playing/working with myself and my clients on the path to getting free of conditioning, a way that interfaces so harmoniously with the other practices I had explored and continue to explore like Vipassanna, martial arts, dance (especially Tango),  and enJoying the Wilderness with both my gaited horses. I love working with couples and individuals in the role of NVC trainer or psychotherapist.   What's more fun than getting free of conditioning?  Getting free together.     Cheers,   Jack