Monika Schäpe
The heart is the place where all wars are being won. Das Herz ist der Ort, an dem alle Kriege gewonnen werden.
I´ve never experienced that a conflict in communication is not linked to one ore several of our personal traumas. It reveals immediately if you start to work on a conflict with Marshall´s model - that I call the Map of NVC. So I support people to create a deep connection to themselves and what they really feel. If they dare to go there and experience themselves bodily what the conflict is really about there´s a huge release in their system. Communicating in Marshall´s 4 steps becomes much more authentic - based not on a mental list of feelings that is learned by heart - but based on what´s observable in the moment just right now. People experience that as a very practical all-day-life support and thereby as a big relief.
I have got to know a number of different vehicles, teachings and therapies to increase my awareness about the world of concepts and ideas I have grown up in. Until now I have not found a more efficient draft than NVC to overcross the torrential river of our conditionings and beliefs. I wanna introduce and share my experiences with this draft to other people who are interested how to cross that river - and celebrate that harvest. The essence of that work is about HONOURING what there I S . Inside yourself - in your relationship towards others. To find out what there is, we need our skill to distinguish. Marshall´s model is a very efficient tool to provide that.
I wanna contribute to live in a world where people are being enabled more and more to make their decisions and strategies by their free-will-choices. The 4 step model is providing an excellent tool to find all the players and instances of our decisionmaking. Once being identified by clear observation - it is about to recognize the dignity of us as the human beings we are. With this deeply respecting process our connection to our heart is being installed. From this place deep within our decisionmaking changes into free-will-choice. It is about to integrate - embody the insights and wisdom of the heart into our thinking, feelings, needs and actions. So finally we can meet each other by the simplicity and beauty of our common HEART.