In 1998 I read an article in The Optimist about NVC and about giraffes and jackals. Since then I have grown into a life attitude of connection. I love the feeling of gratitude when the dance of self inquiry and connecting with the feelings and needs of the other lead to being with what is and inner safety. I discovered that this continuous process both takes and gives energy. My challenge is to find the balance.
Marshall sings in one of his songs: Where the hell does the energy come to care for humanity, when it is more than I can cope with is taking care of me? I found a possible answer to this question: I know where the energy comes to care for humanity. I found it deep down in my heart, when I take care of me.
When I fulfill my need for self care, I can contribute to the lives of others - whether I am with my partner, my family and friends, in meeting someone in the street, when I read the paper and watch television, or in my work as trainer and coach or through writing an article or book. Only then.