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title: "\"Relationship Reset\" micro-lesson #5 - Center for Nonviolent Communication"
description: ""
url: "https://www.cnvc.org/news/lesson-5-of-5-powerful-nvc-micro-lessons-2026-relationship-reset-series"
date: "2026-09-19T11:07:34+00:00"
language: "en-US"
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#   "Relationship Reset" micro-lesson #5

18-Feb-2026

#### Lesson 5 of 5 powerful NVC micro-lessons - 2026 "Relationship Reset" series

Repeat back = feel heard - "Relationship Reset" series

 Have you ever had the 'Jackal' thought, *“This is like talking to a brick wall”?*

It might be that your partner or friends have had a similar experience.

Next time you notice the urge to defend yourself - a reaction that often increases resistance and defensiveness in others - try to **echo** or paraphrase the feelings and needs of the person you are talking to.

 Try this sentence:

“So what I’m hearing is that you’re feeling **overwhelmed** because you need more **support** and help at home. Did I get that right?”

This isn’t about agreeing with the other person. It’s about **acknowledging what they’re feeling and what is alive in them**. Once someone feels heard, their nervous system can relax - and then they are more likely to be able to hear you.

 Want to explore this skill more deeply?

Learn how to use the “Language of the Heart.” (Credit: @GiraffeNVC)

 [ Watch the video ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xov5z_GJ9Zs)

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