9-day Retreat in Nonviolent Communication
Join us for this residential retreat in Italy (15-24 July 2022) that will help you bring nonviolence and peace into all areas of your life. In this event, you can discover skills that will help you improve the quality of your relationships, deepen your inner peace, and increase your contribution to the world.
This 9-day immersion experience into Nonviolent Communication (NVC) will offer formal learning sessions, home groups, coaching and feedback from skilled trainers, and a community environment where you can learn and practice they key skills of NVC.
Our team of Certified Trainers will share both the core curriculum of NVC as developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, as well as their own unique applications. We expect a group of approximately 50 to 60 people from different countries, cultural backgrounds, professions and walks of life.
People around the world are using Nonviolent Communication skills to transform conflict, create resiliency in their relationships, and build a world where everyone's needs matter and are met collaboratively.
We will create a dynamic learning laboratory that will show you how to create a more compassionate and peaceful culture in your life at home, at work, and in your community by learning how to:
- Speak from the heart
- Practice deep, non-judgmental listening
- Build self-empowerment from the inside out
Format: In-person, 9-day residential retreat
Languages: English, Deutsch, Italiano (primarily, this training will be presented in English and translated into German and Italian; some breakout sessions might be presented in German and Italian)
Begins: Friday, 15 July 2022 (5:00 pm)
Ends: Sunday, 24 July 2022 (1:00 pm)
Sponsor: Center for Nonviolent Communication
Organizer: Angela Attianese, Certified Trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication
|Goals of this Training|
The purpose of this training is to give you the opportunity to live the process of Nonviolent Communication in community over an extended period of time, in order to develop the mindsets and practical tools to help you in three areas:
1. Personal and Professional Relationships
- Increase connection and closeness with the people you love.
- Speak in a way that inspires compassion and understanding.
- Initiate difficult conversations with more ease and confidence.
- Remain centered and peaceful when receiving difficult messages.
- Express and receive anger fully, safely and respectfully... yet powerfully.
- Resolve long-standing conflicts and heal painful relationships.
- Parent children from the heart and move beyond power struggles into cooperation.
- Translate criticism, judgments and blame into life-serving messages.
2. Inner Transformation
- Shift patterns of thinking that lead to depression, guilt and shame and that perpetuate pain.
- Transform anger into self-understanding, thereby increasing inner peace.
- Enliven yourself by expressing and receiving gratitude.
- Learn to embody unconditional love.
3. Contribution to others and Social Change
- Create educational systems where students love learning and teachers love teaching.
- Learn to engage in effective, lasting nonviolent social change in the tradition of Gandhi and Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
- Facilitate meetings and support group decision making in a power-sharing, collaborative, and consensus-based ways.
- Support holistic and human-based workplaces
- Engage with others at work and in the community to foster openness, trust and authenticity.
- Foster restoration and harmony by mediating conflicts and helping to resolve differences among others.
While we will prioritize these three main areas in the curriculum, there will be opportunities for you to request specific topics and applications that are relevant to you. We will help you apply what you learn at work, at home, and in your community!
|The Training Team|
Each member of the team is a Certified Trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication.
Trainer: Giacomo Poleschi (Italy)
Giacomo offers training, parenting support, coaching and personal development, mediation, and facilitation of groups. In Italy, he collaborates with the Centro Esserci NVC workshop center and publishing house, and also with Parlare Place, a nonprofit organization and educational project inspired by NVC and Montessori education.
He discovered NVC in 2012, just he and his wife were awaiting the birth of their first child, and now shares in the care of their three children (in 2014, he quit his job to spend 1.5 years with his daughter as a “full-time dad”). They live on the west coast in Tuscany, Italy.
Giacomo was immediately struck by how NVC could inform his experience of parenthood and relationships in a completely different and meaningful way.
In 2016, inspired to apply NVC in the work environment, he co-founded (along with his wife and several friends) In Pasta – cibo e convivio an artisanal pasta laboratory and restaurant. Giacomo has a degree in Computer Engineering and previously worked in the field of Supply Chain and Logistics.
Trainer: Christlin Rajendram (Sri Lanka)
Born in 1943 in Batticaloa on the East Coast of Sri Lanka as Christlin Parimalanathan Rajendram, Chris is the fourth of 8 children. He joined the Jesuit Religious Order in 1960 and was ordained a Priest in 1973.
In 1996 when teaching in the United States, Father Chris met Marshall Rosenberg and Nonviolent Communication, who gave him a new perspective on everything that he was doing, especially his spiritual path.
Chris said, "I have discovered how to perceive my life and the lives of others in a different way and since then I have been enjoying my study and the opportunity to share with the others." He studied and then taught in universities in Sri Lanka and the United States in communication and conflict studies.
Trainer: Gabriele Grunt (Austria)
Gabriele has been working as a trainer with children and adults for almost 30 years. Born in Vienna, she studied cultural anthropology and worked in international and national projects, workshops and NGOS that deal with power imbalance, racism, enemy images and restorative justice.
Gabriele enjoys exploring different ways of reaching people, learning, and working together – focusing not only on individual learning, but on how to enable each of us to transform the structures we live in and create a more satisfying quality of connection. Gabriele shares NVC in various kinds of organizations in the fields of education, economy, justice, and health, and in residential communities with individuals and teams of varying sizes.
In many long-term projects in schools, universities, organisations, communities, and companies, Gabriele supports people to consciously choose ways towards understanding, cooperation and peaceful conflict dialogue - and step by step to co-create structures that support partnership, mutual empowerment, new ways of leadership and inclusion in learning and working environments.
Trainer: Irmtraud Kauschat (Germany)
Irmtraud is a medical doctor and has given NVC training throughout Europe and Africa and has led reconciliation efforts between warring groups in Kenya, Somalia, Israel/Palestine, Ukraine, and the former Yugoslavia.
She organized the first IIT in Africa in 2013 and a second one in 2017. Irmtraud is a founding member and chairperson of her local circle in Darmstadt, Germany as well as in the German speaking network, D-A-CH.
When she heard Marshall Rosenberg talk about his experiences in Israel/Palestine and Northern Ireland, she was very enthusiastic about the impact NVC could have on people’s lives. Her vision became to contribute to peace building in a similar way.
This vision has come true. Peace is a very important topic for her since her childhood when she saw ruins in Frankfurt after World War 2 and witnessed the broadcasting of the Auschwitz process in her teenage years, when she was confused getting to know that the very same people who killed Jewish children and parents were described as loving parents themselves.
From 2012-13, Irmtraud served on the CNVC Board of Directors and previously on the Global Coordinating Circle (GCC) and English-speaking European and African Circle (EAC). Since 2017, she has been an Assessor and accompanies candidates on their way to certification. She has co-authored two books with NVC exercises.
Trainer: Karoline Bitschnau-Dellamaria (Austria)
Karoline has worked as a trainer and coach in adult education for over 30 years. Her great passion is supporting and encouraging people in their growth and development.
She began her studies of educational science at the age of 35 after 20 years of working in the economy. Karoline taught at various universities for 10 years, fell in love with Nonviolent Communication in 2003, and spent several years researching what skills are enhanced by working with NVC and what changes in people's lives are brought about by critical success factors.
Since 2005, Karoline has been sharing NVC in seminars and courses with people from school, social and health care, and business. Through individual coaching, Karoline accompanies people on their way to themselves and serves as as a mentor and supervisor for professional and personal concerns.
As a CNVC-certified trainer, it is important to her to live the attitude of NVC in everyday life and to create alternative structures together with others so that living and working together can be peaceful, appreciative, and fulfilling.
Her current focus is NVC and resilience: How can people use NVC to cope well with times of crisis, regain their strength, and stay in their power? When people are in their power it is easier to live a deep connection to themselves and a deep connection to others.
Trainer: Shona Cameron (Scotland)
Shona is a psychologist, coach, and mentor and is known for her presence and clarity that supports people to find depth and integration, which she believes arises from a radical acceptance of oneself.
She began exploring Nonviolent Communication in 2003, learning from both Marshall Rosenberg and trainers around the world. Shona became a Certified Trainer in 2006 and an Assessor in 2016, currently working with English Speaking European Assessor Team.
When working as a psychologist in schools with teachers and parents, she recognized the potential that NVC offered for personal and social change. Shona told the head of schools where she worked, “If teachers really knew the power of being in touch with their own needs, they may decide to never come back.”
The head of schools responded, “Great, then we'll have the teachers who really want to be here.” Inspired, she brought Nonviolent Communication into spaces where no one knew what she was doing.
Shona authored a chapter in the book, Restorative Theory in Practice: Insights into What Works and Why and runs an online community called Words are Windows. One of her favorite learning methods is the NVC Dance Floors, which offer an embodied yet simple way to integrate NVC into our daily lives. Learn more about Shona.
The cost of this training includes two components: 1) Tuition; and 2) Room and Board.
A. Tuition (USD): convert to your currency
- $1,989 Early Bird (make your payment between 15-April through 26-April-2022)
- $2,340 Standard (27-April-2022 and after)
- 15% discount if you are a Certification Candidate and/or if you participated in a previous IIT (Note: Even if you fit both of these criteria, you may only receive one 15% discount)
- 15% discount if you are a full-time resident of Italy, Croatia, or Slovenia
If you would want to attend this event but money is an obstacle, fill out the registration form and answer "yes" to the question, "Do you need financial assistance in order to attend this training."
B. Room and Board (EUR):
The first step is to pay for tuition. After you pay tuition, we will send you an email (most likely from Fabio Comacchio, one of the organizers) with instructions about how to reserve your room, board, and accommodation. We will provide the bank account details where you can send a bank transfer.
Here are the room types that are available:
- 800 € - Single room in the castle
- 760 € - Double room in the castle
- 675 € - Extra bed in triple room
Room and Board prices include your room and all meals throughout the event beginning with supper the first day and ending with lunch the final day.
Rooms and types of rooms are limited and are available on a first-come, first-serve basis; we encourage you to book your housing as soon as you complete registration and payment for the IIT starting 15-Apr-2022.
If you choose a shared room, you can choose your own roommate or we can assign one to you based upon any preferences you tell us on the registration form.
Commute Daily: We enthusiastically encourage you to stay on-site because our experience is that you will be able to participate more fully and get more value from the experience. However, if you choose to commute, the commuter fee includes lunch and dinner (breakfast is not included) and the daytime use of the facility.
Address: Via del Castello, 45, I - 39021 Coldrano, Italy (Google Maps)
Castel Coldrano (Deutsch: Schloss Goldrain) is a medieval castle, an ancient noble residence, located in the municipality of Laces, in the province of Bolzano, in the Alto Adige region.
It is located at the slopes of Mount Mezzodì, at an altitude of 700 meters (2,700 feet), surrounded by vineyards and orchards.
Today, after a deep restoration, the castle hosts exhibitions and conferences and has a guesthouse area for residential guests.
It has single and double rooms (3 or 4 triples) for a total of 55 beds. In the vicinity of the castle are available apartments for an additional 25 beds.
We recommend two airports:
- VCE - Venice Marco Polo Airport: 327 km from the venue
- INN - Innsbruck Airport (Austria): 164 km from the venue
Here is the location in Google Maps.
We recommend waiting until we confirm the training on 15-Apr-2022 before booking non-refundable travel. We will not reimburse you for travel expenses if this training does not occur.
We are living in an era in which we need to take into consideration the current situation with Covid-19. We care for your health and safety, still valuing choice and freedom. So we are doing our best to form a strong, clear, and inclusive Covid policy and measures, doing anything in our power to organize this safe and legal, live, in-person event. Since this event is in-person, the conditions could impact international travel and gathering in large groups.
For this reason, we will be waiting to confirm this training until 15-Apr-2022 (3 months before the start date) and monitoring the situation closely both before and after this date. A summary of the Covid safety measures are:
1. Before arrival
If you cancel before arrival due to a positive Covid test, you have two options:
- Transfer 100% of tuition to a future IIT
- Receive 100% refund of tuition
For accommodation, you can receive a full refund. You can get more info also by emailing us. Please contact the IIT organizers directly to cancel your reservation and request a refund.
3. On arrival
Upon arrival, we will ask each person to show us a negative result on a Covid test taken within 48 hours (if you travel internationally to get to the IIT, you might already have this). We will have test kits available.
4. During your stay
In addition to a negative test upon arrival, we plan to require each person to take a second test on approximately Day 4 of the training. This testing will be mandatory for all participants, trainers, and organizers, regardless of your vaccination status, previous testing, or natural immunity as a result of recovering from prior infection.
We will minimize contact with people outside of our group as much as possible, so we provided separated seminar rooms, some separation at lunch, and spacious private rooms as well some activities may be arranged outdoors. We invite you to limit physical interaction with all non-participants and to keep safe distances or use protective elements as masks, during the event. We will do our best to assure safety for the whole group.
STEP 1 (now): Fill out the registration form to reserve your space
STEP 2 (starting 15-Apr-2022): Make your payment for tuition to the Center for Nonviolent Communication once we have opened payments
Given ongoing uncertainties regarding travel due to COVID, we have organized the registration process for this training as described below. We want to take into account safety, flexibility, financial security, and predictability for you as a participant as well as for us, the venue, and the training team. Please read the following application process carefully.
On 15-Apr-2022, we plan to announce our decision to move ahead with this training, assuming that Covid factors and travel restrictions are accommodating enough. (if, in our assessment, Covid conditions would limit travel, safety, or access, we will announce the IIT is not being held and/or is being rescheduled). Assuming we are moving ahead you have 2 options:
- Pay the “Early Bird” price of USD $1,989, which will be available for 10 days (15-Apr-2022 through 26-Apr-2022). After that, we will process applications from people at the standard registration rate. Upon receipt of payment, you are invited to make your travel plans.
If you are unable to pay our full tuition fee, you can apply for financial assistance. We will review the first batch of applications 10 days after payment begins (25-Apr-2022). Limited spots are available for financial assistance. We may not be able to grant full or partial requests. We will review financial assistance applications regularly so that you can receive timely notice.
Note: Once we open payments 15-Apr-2022, we encourage you to register at your earliest ability for both your tuition (to secure your space in the training) and room and board (to give you choice about your room type).
If you are traveling to the United States from another country, you might need to obtain a visa. Please consult the United States Embassy in your country for details. If you need an invitation letter from us in order to apply for your Visa, email us.
Please wait to purchase your travel until we confirm the training. We will make a final decision and announcement about whether this training is occurring on 15-Apr-2022.