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Unconditional Self-Love

If response to my 2013 video on implicit memory is any indicator (it's by far my most viewed video, find it here), people are catching on to how important it is to understand implicit memory. A good understanding of implicit memories and of how to integrate them has been immensely helpful for me.

In my latest video, I explain a process I use for working through my own difficult implicit memories. This process has given me some of my deepest experiences of unconditional self-love. Find it here. And see below for some extra notes related to the process.

Nonviolent Communication Entails Owning Your Stories.

I have realized in my experiences with human beings (I'm writing from the perspective of a Nigerian living in Lagos) that the inability to own your stories leads to violence in your interpersonal interactions.

What do I mean by this?  Your stories refer to the events that have happened to you during the course of your lifetime.  In owning your stories, you choose to keep them to yourself as you discuss only your sincere observations, thoughts, feelings, and needs with others.

It is true that many self-help books out there write about the benefits of self-disclosure in your interpersonal interactions but the truth is real intimacy results from being able to share your sincere observations, thoughts, feelings, and needs with human beings as you get constructive feedback that lets you know your listener got your intended message and executes your message in such a way that your needs get met.

Empathy 101: Speaking and Listening — Effective Communication Through Empathy

Colleagues not following through? Teens not doing their homework or chores? Your partner prioritizing work over you and your relationship?

In this interactive workshop, learn how to inspire and motivate others without coercion, guilt or shame — getting far better results in the long term and with less pain. Come with some actual situations you'd like greater clarity on.

Tue, Mar 13, 2018, 7 pm

Tickets from $35

Dian Killian

Empathy 101: Making Peace with Your Inner Critic — How to Ease Up on Negative Self-Talk


Negative self-talk can drain energy and block us from achieving our full potential.​

Just as bad: Our inner critic often affects how we relate to others, resulting in a lack of harmony, connection and understanding. In this interactive program, learn techniques to help you embrace the positive intent of your inner critic and gain greater clarity about what matters most. And get the results you want!

Tue, Feb 13, 2018, 7 pm

Tickets from $35

Dian Killian

Empathy 101: Setting Achievable New Year's Resolutions

Tired of setting new goals each year and disappointed by missing the mark?

Based on tried and tested coaching and communication techniques, learn in this program how to connect with what's really driving your choices and make goals for yourself that are tangible, doable and achievable, leading to greater satisfaction, self-understanding and results!

Tue, Jan 23, 2018, 7 pm

Tickets from $35

Dian Killian

Feeling Your Way Through

Holidays and family visits can bring up all kinds of difficult conflict and emotions. If you're looking for support, I'm here for you - read more about my support in my blog post below.

You'll also find good support in my book. I've put my ebook on an 80% sale from Dec1-8 and the paperback version is 30% off Dec 1-15 (the start date might be Dec 2 or 3, depending on how long Amazon takes to make the change. 

You ask Why? I ask Why Not?

Dearly Beloved Teacher told me that to ask the “why” of a thing is a way to deny a thing.

Asking why could be a way to deny a thing.  Could be curiosity and wanting to know more about it. Could be because I can’t think of anything else to say to connect with the other person about what they are saying. Could be something else…

Asking Why Not is a way I can express my openness to expand, explore, experience…

Sometimes it’s just that simple!

How about you? What motivates you to ask why?

Comment to share your reply.

I'm Dressed For Success!

If you are curious about how I define "success" for myself, you can click to read my inner child blog post today:  I love being read. Satisfying needs to matter and for purpose and for play!

Thanks for reading me. Share me with your friends that you imagine might be enriched? Thanks!

The Story of How the New World Began: You and the Old Man Picking Up Starfish

coming to walk along the ocean in the early morning, you saw an endless stretch of dying starfish on the sand. As you walked along you came upon an old man picking up starfish and returning them to the ocean.

Why are you doing that, you asked.

So they have a chance to live, he replied.

What! you exclaimed, Look at this beach. There are thousands, maybe millions of starfish. What difference can you possibly make?!

He answered you simply, looking down at the one he was holding carefully in his hand. I make a difference to this one,he said,  as he tossed it into the waves.


You stood there silently. You heard the echo of his words in your heart. In your entire being. Something moved inside of you. Something moved. It was your hand, reaching for your cell phone. You typed a message to everyone you knew. A simple message:


Come to the beach. Starfish need our help.


Here's What I Know About Fear

In many ways, 2017 has been a year of facing fears for me. Some fears I've intentionally walked toward as part of my healing and my experiment in coming alive. Other fears have found me unawares.

If you'd like to learn more about fear and how to respond to it, check out my new video blog post. I explore fear from neurological, psychological, and spiritual perspectives.

I'd love to know what you think. Please leave a comment, and subscribe to my Youtube channel if you'd like to be notified of future videos. If you have any requests for future video blog topics, I'd love to receive them.

Until next time, take care of your heart.


Book Talk: The Heart and Science of Relationship Success
September 20, 2017

The Center for Nonviolent Communication
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