Simran K. B. Wester

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A. Approximately how many training days did you have this year?: 
B. Briefly list the groups and organizations you worked with this year as a trainer.: 
General Public, Social Workers Organization, Environmental Activists Group. Women`s Group of the Protestant Church
C. Approximately how many people did you offer NVC training to this year?: 
D. What are you celebrating about your training experiences this year? What was significant for you? What touched your heart?: 
I love seeing the transformation in people's lives when they start coming from the NVC-attitude. I loved the community spirit that arouse at the IIT in Switzerland in July 2013. I appreciate the support NVC trainers create for each other in our region, especially the support I received from some of them in creating the Hamburg Institut for Nonviolent Communication (
E. Would you share some difficult experiences you had while training this year and how you handled them?: 
Somebody became very agitated in a class and started yelling at me. Everybody became silent and looked scared, my heart started to beat up to my head and I was at a loss for words. When a participant tried offering empathy to the person, it gave me some relief and I supported her in giving that empathy, then expressed my fear and helplessness and my need for respect and gentleness and understanding, and asked the person if he could reflect back what I was saying. I then realized he was not able to hear me at that point, but needed much more empathy for his pain. He left the group still very upset, I stayed with the group and we shared about how we had experienced the situation, how we were feeling and which of our needs had been alarmed, and also what we assumed had been his needs. We also thought about what our request to him might be. It was in the end a very rich experience of connecting and supporting each other, and it helped me to approach the person in a compassionate way later.
F. How do you teach the spiritual basis of Nonviolent Communication in your workshops and training programs? : 
At the beginning of my classes, I often lead the participants in a meditation to connect them with what is alive in them right now, what they are grateful for and what they are longing for, and then have them share it, and it always creates a sense of us all being connected through the same beautiful enrgy of life itself. Another way is an exercise that I often use in my trainings where I invite participants to fully explore and express everything around a need that is important to them at that moment, both nonverbally and in words, and that creates a deep sense of being connected to life and to the beauty of serving life.
G. Please describe your social change goals...: 
Support people in integrating NVC in their lives at all levels, especially parents, social workers and teachers. Support future trainers to live in the conscoiusness of NVC and incorporate that attitude in their trainings. Make NVC known in as many different areas of society as possible.
J. Please describe your efforts to create, or join, an NVC circle or organization.: 
Besides the network meetings mentioned above, I have been working since a few years now to create the Hamburg Institute for NVC and hopefully it will have it's official start in 2014. Among the courses offered through the Institute will be a training of four five-day-modules designed to suport people who want to become trainers themselves.
K. Summarize participants’ evaluations, and how their feedback resulted in new learning or growth for you this past year.: 
In general, I receive very enthusiastic feedback - people tell me how what they have taken home from my trainings has helped them communicate differently with f.e. their children, their friends, at work etc. I often hear that people have been doing therapy for a long time but now, with NVC, they could make a big step and change the course of their life, which was not possible before. I realized the most important is to have them have an experience of empathy, either receiving it or giving it, or even only watching it being given - this will make them want to incorporate it into their lives, and it is what really makes the difference when they communicate.
L. What are your current growing edges or challenges as a trainer that you will be working on in the future?: 
My big challenge is to structure my time in such a way that I only do the things that really require me, and delegate everything elso to assistants (both admin and training) or other trainers, so I find enough time to rest and do my spiritual practice.
M. If you found opportunities to work with other trainers this year, please share the most meaningful experiences for you.: 
The highlight in 2013 definetively was the IIT in Switzerland. Working together with the other trainers was a very inspiring experience because we were in such a smooth and funloving flow. The flow of working together is also what I cherish most in the other trainings that I offer together with other trainers.
N. Is there anything else you would enjoy sharing with the CNVC network?: 
I love being part of this community, I find it inspiring an heart warming. Thank you everyone for contributing in your unique way!

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