Pernille Plantener

Language of Report: 
English
Year of Report: 
2012
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General Public (Including Certified Trainers and Certification Candidates)
A. Approximately how many training days did you have this year?: 
3
C. Approximately how many people did you offer NVC training to this year?: 
8
D. What are you celebrating about your training experiences this year? What was significant for you? What touched your heart?: 
Ongoing celebration: That NVC is such an easy agent of connection even for people who are new to NVC.
E. Would you share some difficult experiences you had while training this year and how you handled them?: 
I only did one training in 2012 so not a lot of learning and growing opportunities. There was one person at in the class who had experience from the coaching field and who enjoyed to contribute a lot. I tried to enclude his contributions as much as I could. Not until the other participants handed in their feedback sheets did I know that several of them were annoyed by him and would have liked me to stop him sooner. I learned that being more sharp when facilitating a group enhances the learning experience for more people and if my intention is to serve the group, interrupting is easier.
F. How do you teach the spiritual basis of Nonviolent Communication in your workshops and training programs? : 
How not... About interdepence. Shared human needs that connect us. A good reason behind every action and spoken word. First of all, I embrace all parts of all participants and aim to model radical acceptance.
G. Please describe your social change goals...: 
I want to contribute to a sustainable and socially just world where everybody's needs matter. I do that through project work and consultancy with organic farmers and through individual and group processes. A planet where humans and natural realms interact in respectful balance.
J. Please describe your efforts to create, or join, an NVC circle or organization.: 
I'm an active member of the two NVC associations FIVK (Association fo Nonviolent Communication) and LivKom (Association for Life-enriching Communication). I offer fundraising and project management for LivKom and in 2012, we had two NVC projects running. One 'Spreading NVC and OST in Europe' with EU grants from the Grundtvig program. This was a cultural and educational exchange program in which a group of Danish NVC ttrainers and students met with trainers and students from Turkey, Poland, Holland and Germany. In 2012, we met in Denmark and Turkey. You can read more about the project on the European Shared Treasure website where you can search on SNOE (acronym for Spreading NVC and OST in Europe). We had some challenging months which I'll write more about below. I am managing a Nordic Council-funded project, too, in which Liv Larsson & Kay Rung from Sweden, Marie Rørvik from Norwegian NVC and Norwegian Red Cross is part as well as my close friend and colleague Carl Plesner from Denmark: First Response and lon term support for violated women. The aim is to create a training for people who meet women who have been exposed to domestic violence, like crisis center workers, nurses, teachers, police officers. We started the project in 2012, setting up goals, intentions and a timeline. Having Norwegian Red Cross as part of our group offers exciting opportunities to dream big and to step out of our shared understanding of ourselves - which requires us NVC-people to review and weed out anything exclusive from our approach. The benefit is that we are becoming ready for a broader audience. In 2013, the project will be developing and testing a 3-days' training in Denmark, Sweden and Norway, and in 2014, we plan to complete the curriculum and share the results - and hopefully be ready for offering the training to a wider community of helping professionals, if approved by the Red Cross, through their network.
K. Summarize participants’ evaluations, and how their feedback resulted in new learning or growth for you this past year.: 
The biggest challenge for me this year was a practice group that I was co-facilitating. There was a huge wish among the 20+ participants to keep including a woman who delivered continuous verbal attacks towards myself and my co-facilitator. I spent hundreds (!) of emails and many hours in dialogue with her and my trainer colleagues and became quite convinced that being a member of the group neither served the woman nor the group. As we had agreed upon a flat structure, my only option was to withdraw the link and support from our organization to the group, which I did. I received the feedback of being violent and power-loving which was quite heart-breaking. My learning was to realize that responsibility without power is dreadful. I still deeply mourn the loss of a great practice group and connection with a few people who are still resentful towards me because of what happened.
L. What are your current growing edges or challenges as a trainer that you will be working on in the future?: 
To be proud of NVC even when speaking to people who are business-oriented or from other fields than personal development. I tend to use a softer, more business-like language when I think the person in front of me will have prejudices about me and my offerings.
M. If you found opportunities to work with other trainers this year, please share the most meaningful experiences for you.: 
Co-facilitating the practice group with Carl Plesner as mentioned above. It was a great comfort to be together in this really painful period. Arranging and carrying through the international meeting with Kirsten Kristensen, Karsten Schacht-Petersen and Carl Plesner was a great joy and learning experience. Being in the Nordic Council-project mentioned above and setting the purpose of including all hesitation and doubt as vehicles for creating the most substantial and qualified training together - was a great experience.
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