Kathleen Macferran

Language of Report: 
English
Year of Report: 
2012
Share My Report With: 
General Public (Including Certified Trainers and Certification Candidates)
A. Approximately how many training days did you have this year?: 
62
B. Briefly list the groups and organizations you worked with this year as a trainer.: 
Parenting groups, Domestic violence non-profits, AWARE- Juneau (domestic violence), State of Alaska Office of Children’s Services, Tlingit and Haida tribe representatives, CNVC trainer candidates, WA State Prison inmates, general public, high school and college students.
C. Approximately how many people did you offer NVC training to this year?: 
722
D. What are you celebrating about your training experiences this year? What was significant for you? What touched your heart?: 
The overall celebration was the forging of community in my trainings and the exploration and experiences of what community means. I was moved numerous times by the level of support and learning that emerged, the beauty and power of coming together with shared vision and purpose. I was deeply touched by the level of vulnerability and courage I perceived in participants and the inspiration that brought to me and to other members of the groups I was with. I’m grateful for the companionship, connection, growth and strong community that has developed in the Trainer Candidate Community Program (TCCP). We are building life-long community with the intention of working side-by-side with our global network to create a more life-serving world. I’m celebrating the exploration and development of the systems we can create to sustain community. The amount this community is teaching me is tremendous. Their companionship is precious to me. This community relied on the strong bonds we have built in the living of NVC together when one of our colleagues, Evan Gorsline, died soon after he completed his final assessment. As we mourned together in community, it was so evident how much we had learned from and been touched by him. Evan’s family expressed to us how much he had changed, found a community where he had a sense of belonging, and found his authentic passion in the last two years with us. It was an incredible honor for all of us to walk this path with him. My experiences in prison have been incredible. I find so much inspiration as I watch the determination of the inmates to transform their lives of violence to lives where they live passionately from their values. So many stories to tell of the changes. I’m humbled to be a part of their lives.
E. Would you share some difficult experiences you had while training this year and how you handled them?: 
In the role of assessor, I am constantly in a place of exploration about how we offer this thing called “assessment” in an NVC power-with, co-created, holistically informed model. I’m gifted now more than ever before with people’s pain around evaluation in power-over paradigms. I find it challenging at times to find the resources to support individuals to the extent they need for the level of pain that is stimulated in them around experiences of evaluation. I also find it challenging to support a sustainable paradigm shift where honest feedback flows back and forth as part of the way we live together, where each person steps more fully into their power and doesn’t give it up to another person, where we celebrate and support each other’s strengths. The way I’ve dealt with this is to stay in dialog, giving space for all to be fully heard, to make requests for ways to co-create something together that is closer to our hopes and dreams. What I have found is that it gives an opportunity for all of us in the discussion to start healing core wounds in this area with support from one another.
F. How do you teach the spiritual basis of Nonviolent Communication in your workshops and training programs? : 
Primarily by living the process. I have a strong intention to walk my talk in every aspect of my life. I almost always share the consciousness of NVC prior to any sharing of the model and refer back to the consciousness throughout the sharing.
G. Please describe your social change goals...: 
My interest now is on how to create life-serving systems that are practical and accessible to all. I’m challenging myself daily to live the underlying principles in ways that are fluid and flexible. I’m specifically exploring ways to create and maintain systems that allow communities to flourish, focusing on developing the candidate community. I know primarily that it is my own inner growth/connection that is key to any social change work I do so I continue on a daily basis to remember who I am, what I long for, and search for support to realize my full potential. I continue to work in the WA State prisons (men’s and women’s) to help empower all of us to live from a place of connection with needs so we no longer choose to resort to violence to meet those needs. I have deep gratitude to my colleagues who go in with me and to my brothers and sisters behind bars who inspire me with their courage and hope. One of the main places I’m living out this exploration of restorative, life-enriching systems is by working with CNVC trainer candidates. My vision is that we explore/create/prototype ways of being in sustainable community where the needs of all are honored and served, then we go out to communities around the globe and co-create with them enlivened communities knowing we have support and shared vision with our global CNVC network.
J. Please describe your efforts to create, or join, an NVC circle or organization.: 
I’m part of the Trainer Candidate Community Program (TCCP), CNVC’s educational services team, NW Compassionate Communication and the Freedom Project. NW Compassionate Communication is our local network which is happily growing includes Barb Larson, Doug Dolstad, Mel Sears, Sura Hart, Liv Monroe, Elana Sabajon, Holly Eckhardt, Karl Steyaert, Marcia Christen, David Weinstock, Dow Gordon and Donna Kramer. It’s an amazing resource for me both in learning and support. We have a monthly gathering that varies in the number who can attend. I have a sense of being emotionally connected and have huge trust with my colleagues. I’d love to find ways we can work together more. Freedom Project- This organization has been struggling to stay in operation in the past few years. We are still offering NVC and mindfulness training in four WA state prisons. It is a great joy and honor for me to be exploring NVC consciousness with inmates and meeting each other as authentic human beings. I learn so much from them and am inspired by the way they strive to live NVC consciousness in very difficult circumstances. CNVC educational services team-I’m working with Rita Herzog, assessors around the world and Marisa from the CNVC office. I love the shared vision and support from this team, the passion to create a world where the needs of all matter, the willingness to move into action and prototype ways of being that are in alignment with our values. I appreciate the willingness to mourn and try again when we have not been able to serve in the ways we had hoped. TCCP- Karl Steyaert is co-holding this group with me now. I’m grateful for his vision, action and support. We are working with 25+ trainer candidates. Kara Bowman and Marcia Christen who have become certified and remain a huge support for this group. As stated before, I cherish the companionship and intense learning of this community and celebrate the challenges of creating spaces where every participant steps into his/her own power. NVC Academy- Mary Mackenzie and her co-founder Mark Schultz have provided sweet collaboration and mutual support for me over the years. I really want to celebrate all they are doing for the whole trainer community and the spread of NVC internationally. Other- I’m also working with Alan Seid and Mary Mackenzie on some projects.
K. Summarize participants’ evaluations, and how their feedback resulted in new learning or growth for you this past year.: 
The gist of the evaluations boils down to an appreciation of the embodiment of the process, gratitude to have one’s beauty and power reflected back, celebration in a leadership style that invites co-creation and shared power, gratitude for a container that allowed safety and vulnerability, appreciation for the ways I showed my own vulnerability. There is also an appreciation for a willingness to engage with conflict and stay with it until there was connection.
L. What are your current growing edges or challenges as a trainer that you will be working on in the future?: 
Many areas: 1) finding ways to have the person listening to my honesty feel so clearly cared for that fear that gets stimulated is balanced with trust 2) how to be fully grounded in consciousness/principles while having enormous fluidity around the form that would best serve in every situation, 3) becoming increasingly aware in every moment of what is wanting to emerge and be co-created by the group I am with 4) how to invite each person I’m with into their full power without backing off on my own 5) how to create sustainable, renewable, restorative systems 6) how to take full responsibility for what is mine and to not take responsibility for what is others 7) self-trust and self-compassion that allow me to act more freely and from my deepest knowing.
M. If you found opportunities to work with other trainers this year, please share the most meaningful experiences for you.: 
Karl Steyaert is joining me in the co-holding of TCCP (trainer candidate community program) after a year of exploration about the possibilities that are in alignment with our individual visions of the world and personal calling. My gratitude is deep for the willingness to look at edgy places in ourselves and in the group, to dream into and implement systems that support the well-being of all, for the gift of his embodiment of the principles value. Assessors around the world- I have a sense of a global presence that is passionate about having NVC consciousness serve the world. I love the partnership I feel about preserving the integrity of the work that will support transformation. I’m grateful to know I’m not alone. I’ve enjoyed the exploration of specific projects with Alan Seid, Mary Mackenzie and Sylvia Haskvitz and all my NW colleagues.
N. Is there anything else you would enjoy sharing with the CNVC network?: 
Gratitude for the willingness of my colleagues to work toward the kind of world I value. I find myself frequently longing to know all of you more fully and look forward to the day when I have more spaciousness to make requests to bring that about.
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