9-day residential retreat in Nonviolent Communication
Join us for this residential retreat in Bali, Indonesia (24 October - 2 November, 2023) that will help you bring nonviolence and peace into all areas of your life. In this event, you can discover skills that will help you improve the quality of your relationships, deepen your inner peace, and increase your contribution to the world.
This 9-day immersion experience into Nonviolent Communication (NVC) will offer learning sessions, home groups, coaching and feedback from skilled trainers, and a community environment where you can learn and practice the key skills of NVC.
Meet the team that will be hosting this event by watching this preview video (4:52).
Our team of Certified Trainers will share both the core curriculum of NVC as developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, as well as their own unique applications. We expect a group of approximately 50 to 60 people from different countries, cultural backgrounds, professions and walks of life.
People around the world are using Nonviolent Communication skills to transform conflict, create resiliency in their relationships, and build a world where everyone's needs matter and are met collaboratively.
We will create a dynamic learning laboratory that will show you how to create a more compassionate and peaceful culture in your life at home, at work, and in your community by learning how to:
- Speak from the heart
- Practice deep, non-judgmental listening
- Build self-empowerment from the inside out
| Basic Details |
Format: In-person, 9-day residential retreat
Languages: English, Indonesian (bahasa Indo)
Begins: Tuesday, 24-October-2023 (17.00)
Ends: Thursday, 2-November-2023 (13.00)
Location: Arma Museum & Resort (Bali, Indonesia)
Sponsor: Center for Nonviolent Communication
Organizer: Valerie Buchert (email Valerie or send a message on WhatsApp)
Steps to Register:
- Fill out the pre-registration form.
- Make your payment (or request financial assistance). Instructions will be provided after you submit the pre-registration form.
- Note: 5 weeks prior to the start of the training, we will send you a form asking you about your dietary preferences, special needs, or other things that will make your experience as successful and meaningful as possible. (Note: We will send you this form).
| Goals of this Training |
The purpose of this training is to give you the opportunity to live the process of Nonviolent Communication in community over an extended period of time, in order to develop the mindsets and practical tools to help you in three areas:
1. Personal and Professional Relationships
- Increase connection and closeness with the people you love.
- Speak in a way that inspires compassion and understanding.
- Initiate difficult conversations with more ease and confidence.
- Remain centered and peaceful when receiving difficult messages.
- Express and receive anger fully, safely and respectfully... yet powerfully.
- Resolve long-standing conflicts and heal painful relationships.
- Parent children from the heart and move beyond power struggles into cooperation.
- Translate criticism, judgments and blame into life-serving messages.
2. Inner Transformation
- Shift patterns of thinking that lead to depression, guilt and shame and that perpetuate pain.
- Transform anger into self-understanding, thereby increasing inner peace.
- Enliven yourself by expressing and receiving gratitude.
- Learn to embody unconditional love.
3. Contribution to others and Social Change
- Share NVC in ways that transmit and model its power to transform and inspire others.
- Create educational systems where students love learning and teachers love teaching.
- Learn to engage in effective, lasting nonviolent social change in the tradition of Gandhi and Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
- Facilitate meetings and support group decision making in a power-sharing, collaborative, and consensus-based ways.
- Support holistic and human-based workplaces
- Engage with others at work and in the community to foster openness, trust and authenticity.
- Foster restoration and harmony by mediating conflicts and helping to resolve differences among others.
While we will prioritize these three areas in the curriculum, there is also room for co-creation. There will be opportunities for you to request specific topics and applications to support you in living and sharing NVC at work, home, and in the community as well as internally in how you relate to yourself.
| The Training Team |
Each member of the training team is a Certified Trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication.
Trainer: Liv Larsson (Sweden)
Certified Trainer, Mediator, and Author
Liv Larsson has been a certified Trainer with CNVC since 2002. She lives in the north of Sweden, leads training all over the world, and is the author of 22 books on communication both for adults and children. She also works as a mediator between the indigenous group of Sweden, the Sami, and the forest and mining companies.
Shame has become one of the mysteries of inner human life that Liv appreciates studying and sharing her knowledge about. Embracing shame means opening up possibilities to learning about human interaction and showing how to find dignity, acceptance, and belonging.
Liv is the author of ten books available in Swedish, English, and other languages including A Helping Hand, mediation with Nonviolent Communication, and Walk Your Talk: Tools and Theories to Help Share Nonviolent Communication Liv loves cross-country-skiing, writing, and enjoying life, preferably in nature. Watch Liv's presentation, Shame – friend or foe? or learn more about her here.
Trainer: Jim Manske (United States)
Certified Trainer and Assessor
Jim has made a lifelong exploration of the practices that make peace not only possible, but inevitable. Growing up in the 1960s, he heard many people around him say they wanted peace, “but everywhere I looked, I saw conflict . . . between friends and family, between neighbors, in civil rights battles and the escalating war in Vietnam—it was us versus them everywhere!”
Jim's journey thus began with a sense that the way people speak and listen to one another contributes to either war or peace in each moment. He went on to study and develop skills in communication, psychology, spirituality, personal growth, mediation, facilitation, and peacemaking. In 2000, he attended his first workshop with internationally recognized peacemaker Marshall Rosenberg. “Within 15 minutes, I knew my life would never be the same.”
Jim has been learning and sharing Nonviolent Communication for more than 20 years. He co-created the learning tool, Pathways to Liberation Self-Assessment Matrix, which has been translated into 15 languages and is used globally by NVC practitioners working toward trainer certification. In 2021, PuddleDancer Press published Jim's book, Pathways to Nonviolent Communication.
He and his partner, Jori Manske (also a trainer at this event; see below) live and work together in Maui, Hawai'i. Their goal is to build a global network of friends devoted to practicing peace by fully integrating NVC into their lives and communities. Learn more about Jim.
Trainer: Liu Yi 刘轶 (China)
Founder of NVC Chinese Net, Certified Trainer
Based in China with a global mind (20+ years of intercultural experience in Europe, Asia and West Africa) and 15+ years professional experience in people development and communication, Liu Yi works as entrepreneur, facilitator, trainer, coach with the vision to catalyze paradigm shift with practical approaches. Her practices and approaches are enriched by both Eastern and Western spiritual practices Zen Buddhism, Taoism and Anthroposophy.
Liu Yi is the first Certified CNVC Trainer in China (Mainland), and founder of the NVC Chinese Net since 2017. She is working with Katherine Singer as Assessor-in Training to support certification for Chinese-speaking candidates.
With a mission of creating a movement of connection and a vision of catalysing empathic culture in China, NVC Chinese Net has proudly established a strong curriculum of NVC based life-enriching education for Chinese-speakers and a network of communities throughout China and the Globe. Learn more about Lu Yi.
Trainer: Barbra Esher (United States)
Certified Coach and Certified Trainer
It’s easy to be present when life is pleasant and can be tough when times are challenging.
I dream of a world in which we all have the capacity to stay connected with ourselves and each other in challenging times. I specialize in untangling knots of pain, discovering the beauty locked inside, and facilitating a free flow of life energy and interconnection. Racism, addiction, and death have been my greatest teachers and often favorite topics for seminars and private coaching.
Early in my son’s 10-year journey with addiction, we were introduced to Nonviolent Communication (NVC). This supported transforming our relationship from shame and blame to love and acceptance. My capacity for saying “yes!” to life, exactly as it is, has been deeply cultivated by Nonviolent Communication and a life-long mindfulness practice.
My relationship with Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh has animated my work promoting peace, reconciliation, and social justice. I have pursued my aspirations with zeal, accumulating tens of thousands of hours of training all over the world in multiple modalities, including 30 years’ experience in the healing arts of acupuncture, shiatsu and East Asian medicine. The same principles apply in acupuncture as NVC as 12 steps and meditation. Bring presence and love to the knots of pain, one breath at a time.
I look forward to connecting with you. Learn more about Barbra.
Trainer: Jori Manske (United States)
Mediator, Facilitator, Mentor, Consultant and Certified Trainer
Jori has been a Certified Trainer with CNVC since 2003 and offers training, mediation, facilitation, organizational development, consulting, and mentoring. Along with her spouse, Jim, she has worked with a variety of businesses, community groups, government, NGO's, private groups and individuals since 1971. In addition, she previously served as both a Board Member and Executive Director of the Center for Nonviolent Communication.
Jori has a degree in Social Work and certifications in Mediation and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). She is co-author of, "The Matrix: Pathways to Liberation," that has been translated into many languages and is part of the NVC certification assessment process. She has attended and trained at numerous IIT’s, continues to work with couples and people individually, and leads online groups with her life partner, Jim. She is also co-creator of the Pathways to Liberation, and author of 2 books.
Jori and her partner, Jim Manske (also a trainer at this event; see above) live and work together in Maui, Hawai'i. Their goal is to build a global network of friends devoted to practicing peace by fully integrating NVC into their lives and communities. Learn more about Jori.
| The Organizer |
Organizer: Valerie Buchert (Bali, France, United States)
Val has been an avid supporter of Nonviolent Communication since its start in Bali in 2017. She has lived in Bali for more than 15 years and has been an attendee at the previous IITs. She is an entrepreneur working on 3 continents, Europe, Asia and the US.
She brings a myriad of skills in business, law, mediation, real estate, marketing, communication, addiction recovery, spirituality, and personal growth. Her mission is to be of service and contribute to the stream of life. Send Valerie a message on WhatsApp.
| Cost |
The cost of this training includes two components: 1) Tuition; and 2) Room and Board (accommodation)
1. Tuition (USD):
- $1,989 - Early Bird (make your payment through 10-Jul-2023) - convert to another currency
- $2,340 - Standard (11-Jul-2023 and after) - convert to another currency
However, if you live full-time in Indonesia, you automatically qualify for the Indonesia resident tuition rate:
- $800 - Early Bird (make your payment through 10-Jul-2023) - convert to another currency
- $950 - Standard (11-Jul-2023 and after) - convert to another currency
Note: The Indonesia resident discount cannot be combined with any of the discounts listed below.
Additional tuition discounts (you may apply only one of these discounts):
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25% for registered Certified Trainers
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15% for registered Certification Candidates
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10% if you participated in (and paid for) a previous intensive training with CNVC
- 10% if you have been a Supporting Member of CNVC for 6 months or more.
Financial assistance:
Instructions will be provided on how to request Financial assistance after you submit the pre-registration form.
After applying the available discounts, if you are not able to afford the tuition, you can request financial assistance to further reduce your tuition fee (Note: We do not offer assistance for Room and Board, which is a direct expense for us to the venue). We have a limited amount of financial assistance available and we prioritize people who meet one or more of the following criteria:
- Actively collaborating with others in the NVC network
- Can use what they learn in this training to make an impact such as in education, government, environmental sustainability, equity and inclusion, or with an NGO or community-based organization.
- From a region that has fewer in-person NVC trainings.
- Part of an economic system that offers less access to financial resources.
- Come from a disadvantaged group (race, ethnicity, origin, religion, gender identity, class)
- Willing to search for other sources of financial support such as their workplace, family, or organizations they are involved in (in order to be in partnership with us about finding the resources to host this training while including as many people as possible)
Note: You can request financial assistance after filling out the pre-registration form.
2. Room and Board (USD): convert to your currency
- Suite Pool Villa (Double) - $ 2,095
- Family Villa (2 Double Rooms) - $ 1,795
- Deluxe Room (Double Room) - $ 775
- Superior Room (Double Room) - $ 675
- Commuter - $ 285
Notes:
- Room and Board prices include your room and all meals throughout the event beginning with dinner the first day and ending with lunch the final day.
- Commuter price includes all meals, except breakfast.
- Rooms and types of rooms are limited and are available on a first-come, first-serve basis; we encourage you to book your accommodation as soon as you register to increase the likelihood that you can get your preferred room type.
- If you choose a double, triple, or quadruple room, you can choose your own roommate(s) or we can assign them based upon any preferences you have.
- Bed linen and towels will be provided.
Cancellation Policy:
A. If we cancel:
If we cancel this training, you receive a 100% refund (or if you prefer, you can apply your payment to another CNVC intensive training within 2 years).
B. If you cancel:
Through 03-Oct-2023, you have two options:
- Transfer 100% of your payment to a future CNVC intensive training within 2 years; or
- Receive a refund minus a nonrefundable $150 tuition deposit
Starting 04-Oct-2023, you have two options:
- Transfer 75% of your payment to a future CNVC training (we retain 25%); or
- Receive a 50% refund (we retain 50%).
Note: Any refunds due will be issued within 2 weeks after the cancellation.
Finally, before this training begins, we will ask you to make several agreements to create an environment that is safe and supportive for everyone, and that supports you in making choices for your own well being. To preview these agreements, go to this page.
| Location |
Venue:
Arma Museum & Resort (Bali, Indonesia)
Address: F7G7+HW MAS, Gianyar Regency, Bali, Indonesia (GoogleMaps)
Poised on six hectare of exquisite Balinese gardens, the design of Museum and Resort is seamlessly reflecting the Arma philosophy of balance between man and environment. Arma is more than a Museum or Resort. It blends tradition in Art, Culture, Architecture and a sophisticated lifestyle.
Arma is located on the Indonesian island of Bali in Ubud District, located amongst rice paddies and steep ravines in the central foothills of the Gianyar regency. Promoted as an arts and culture centre, it has developed a large tourism industry. It forms a northern part of the Greater Denpasar metropolitan area (known as Sarbagita).
| Travel |
Travel Visa:
If you are traveling to Indonesia from another country, you might need to obtain a visa. Please consult the Indonesian Embassy in your country for details. If you need an invitation letter from us in order to apply for your visa, please email us.
Air:
Fly into Ngurah Rai International Airport (DPS) in Denpasar, Indonesia and take an Uber or a set price airport taxi directly to Arma Hotel in Ubud (Google Maps). There will be a forum to share a ride - the details will be shared with you if you confirm your registration by making the payment for the Tuition fee.
Car:
Here is the location in Google Maps.
Public Transportation:
Public transport to the venue is not available.
| Covid-19 Considerations |
We care for your health and safety, whilst valuing choice and freedom. So we are doing our best to form a clear and inclusive health and safety policy and measures, doing anything in our power to organize this safe and legal, live, in-person event. The IIT organizer will research and stay up-to-date on any Covid-related regulations and protocols for Turkey, if applicable.
CNVC and the organizer will create Covid-related policies and protocols within 4 weeks of the start date for what happens if anyone at the event tests positive for Covid and/or exhibits Covid-related symptoms (including what happens with testing). More information can be found at the Indonesian Committee for Handling COVID-19 and National Economic Recovery or at the Welcome Back to Bali travel site.