Gerhard Rothhaupt

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Year of Report: 
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General Public (Including Certified Trainers and Certification Candidates)
A. Approximately how many training days did you have this year?: 
B. Briefly list the groups and organizations you worked with this year as a trainer.: 
mainly open trainings
C. Approximately how many people did you offer NVC training to this year?: 
D. What are you celebrating about your training experiences this year? What was significant for you? What touched your heart?: 
I celebrate that I am more and more taking the chance to express my concerns more directly and openly. Moreover I celebrate the growing trust in the process no matter what happens. My heart is touched again and again by men finding their vulnerability and the strength that lies in it. I am also touched by several occasions where deep connections between men and women happened in areas where there was little understanding before. I celebrate that the topic of intimacy and sexuality is turning up more regularily (before it seemed sometimes like a "Non-topic"). I celebrate that the trainings appear to me more and more as a cocreation and that I am more activly bringing in my topics and requests than before. I celebrate that we managed to integrate a great diversity of people.
E. Would you share some difficult experiences you had while training this year and how you handled them?: 
One difficult experience in 2010 I shared in my last report. After this my biggest challenge was in working with groups of assistants in the ongoing trainings. It was difficult for me to find a balance between my needs and the needs of the assistants. It was a challenge to have one more team-process additional to the participants group. I noticed how difficult it was for me to really find my own way of "leading". Sometimes I was much more exhausted after the team meetings than after a whole training day. I worked in depth with it, found strong believes about leadership, power, teamwork, and how one has to work. Some of them I changed, with others I still live with growing conciousness. An important consequence was to develope a clear paper about the "assistants role" and how we see it, what we request and bring in, what not to expect. A great help for this was an inspiration from Miki and Inbal - thank you for that. We are also much more careful in saying yes to a request to be an assistant with us and take more time to check with the person and within us, wether assistantship is a promising option for all sides. Since then I enjoy working with assistants constantly, feel more and more the support I get and the contribution it makes to the training.
F. How do you teach the spiritual basis of Nonviolent Communication in your workshops and training programs? : 
NOt much different from last year. It is more and more a part of a lot of topics and also of rememberings, individual works etc.
G. Please describe your social change goals...: 
My main focus in the next years will be on healing and understanding between men and women. To support people so that their intimate relationships and families become more and more life enriching communities is one of my main goals. In this area there will be a special focus on supporting men and bringing in new perspectives about sexuality. Another part of my peace work will focus on supporting people to really live their dreams - because: Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what you need to become alive. Because the world needs people that are alive.
J. Please describe your efforts to create, or join, an NVC circle or organization.: 
My main focus is on our regional trainer community in Göttingen/Kassel. We have kind of a "circle" that focuses on the certiified trainers and a broader circle. The connection in the smaller circle is a strong backup for me. One of our activities is the organisation of trainer meeting for the german speaking area. We are members of DACH, the german speaking organization. In Göttingen, I coinitiated the formation of an open practice group, where we nearly all trainers in Göttingen take turns in facilitating the group. Around the focus of this group the connection between the trainers was strengthened.
K. Summarize participants’ evaluations, and how their feedback resulted in new learning or growth for you this past year.: 
People often refer to what they call aliveness and humor in combination with great depth, authenticity and warmth. We now rarely get the feedback, that we are proceeding too fast and people are overwhelmed.
L. What are your current growing edges or challenges as a trainer that you will be working on in the future?: 
My main growing edge is in dealing with my fear of rejection and in my relationship to cnvc.
M. If you found opportunities to work with other trainers this year, please share the most meaningful experiences for you.: 
Still Kirsten Kirsttensen is my main companion and friend and colleague. Our collaboration and friendship grows without spectacular events. I also celebrate working with the family camp team and the growing sense of collaboration with our assistants.
N. Is there anything else you would enjoy sharing with the CNVC network?: 
unrevised draft: I notice that I am loosing connection to CNVC as an organisation. My belonging is to the certified trainers group on the international level. I looked at CNVC as "my organisation" before and no longer do that. I find myself more and more relating to cnvc as "them" and I am much less interested in "what is happening there". I noticed strong reactions when their was an email going out, that the celebrated that the IITs were partly handed over from "the Rosenbergs" to CNVC (jan 27th). First I thought this is the american way of celebration, but I no longer beleive that. My jackals are saying that the "non-said" is speaking louder than what is said. I miss appreciation for all the trainers that contributed to IIT during a much longer period than Valentina, I miss a clear naming, who will be the chosen trainers and how they will be chosen or appointed. What is the role of the trainer community in that, are there criteria, what is the time frame, will there be IITs in Europe 2011 and with whom ... I noticed that there was not one reaction to this celebration in the email group. The same happened to the Email from feb 23rd about helpt in sharing the guidelines for noncertified trainers. Again it seemed to me as a reaction to the German Fachverband, but it was not mentioned - but maybe I am misinterpreting. Again there was no reaction in the emailgroup. I also notice that after hope evoking notes from the board president Robert Gonzales I havent heard from the board for a long time. I am wondering what is happening there. I am missing a clear way of inclusion and power sharing with certified trainers and notice that after the ending of GCC and the ideas of circle organisations I have little energy in investing my energy in creating it. For me the formulation of the new trainer agreement is a sign for a growing distance and deminishing trust between the certified trainers and cnvc. I celebrate that the conversation between cnvc and German Fachverband was published and I very much celebrate that we now have different paths along the certification process available. These are hope provoking signs for me.

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