Taking Care with "Yes" and "No"

When I hear a "no", I recognize it as an opportunity to hear the "needs behind the no"...to inquire about the needs that are preventing the "yes". Since I enjoy my life more when I trust that all anyone is ever doing is making their best efforts in attending to their needs, when I hear the "no", I can inquire as to what needs the other may be trying to satisfy. I can do this by asking aloud, or silently guessing within my own mind.

So....when I hear "Yes", I also enjoy life more when I check "behind the yes", to verify that the "Yes" is offered with free will and with no tinge or hints of duty, burden, or obligation. Why? Because I don't want to pay later for a "yes that wasn't so", or a yes that carried resentment and was not offered with an eager full heart.
Same goes for me when I speak a "Yes". I want to check that I am fully alive with the yes I offer and that there is no sense of obligation or duty that is going on in me.
When we participate in a relationship where we can trust the "yes" and the "no" as they come up for each of us, then we can both enjoy life more!

I like celebrating the No and the Yes as they arrive in my life! :-)

Be well, Dear Ones, be Well!