Couples

Restorative Circles offer ways for individuals, families, groups and communities to establish connection, discover meaning and recover power on profound levels. They create a forum for connecting empathically across differences and reaching agreements that support safety and well-being, both personally and within society.

This systemic approach guides communities in choosing how they would like to respond to future conflict – proactively preventing or diminishing harm – while also giving participants a real-life experience of the practical power of nonviolence to seed understanding and change in challenging contexts.

Developed in the shanty towns, schools, courts and prisons of urban Brazil, Restorative Circles are being used in a wide variety of contexts and countries, where creating the conditions for social justice, group cohesion, resilient relationships and personal healing are recognized as interconnected and vital.

The Circles support dialogue rooted in open-hearted clarity and tangible power-sharing - calling us to rethink our view of and response to living with others, while engaging with the challenge of consciously strengthening community well-being. The results open up revolutionary possibilities for furthering a culture of peace.

In these dynamic two days, Dominic Barter will present the evolution and practice of this work, and its application to diverse areas of our personal and collective lives. Through hands-on exploration of key concepts, grounded in a step-by-step process and illustrated by real world examples, we’ll apply the learning to participants’ issues and increase our ability to see and act from our shared humanity. Finally, we’ll rehearse the development of this new resource in a community of which we are part.

This event will be filmed; you will have the choice to not appear on the videotape.

Dominic Barter began developing restorative practices and systems in the mid 1990s, inspired by the social complexity of Rio de Janeiro, his adopted home, and his study with Marshall Rosenberg in Nonviolent Communication. Since 2004 he has been the training program director and consultant to the Brazilian Justice Department’s Restorative Justice pilot projects, in collaboration with UNDP, UNESCO, the Special Secretariat for Human Rights, local communities and State Secretaries for Education. In 2008 Dominic was a keynote speaker at the International Conference on Restorative Practices. He coordinates the Restorative Justice Project for the international Center for Nonviolent Communication.

CO-CREATING THE RESOURCES FOR THESE EVENTS AND THIS WORK:

We are committed to making this work available to all who request it.

It is offered in the spirit of a gift.

There is no specific fee required in exchange for participation. We invite those who come to do so in the spirit of receiving a gift.

We see us all as sharing power capable of creating the conditions for the world we want to live in. To support the exercise of this power, information on the financial resources used in developing and presenting this work will be shared during the evening. We hope this will support those participants who so choose to contribute financially toward meeting the event's costs and supporting the on-going work.

For those interested, we also welcome contributions before the event, which help to offset upfront costs.

ONE YEAR PROGRAMM (7 WEEKENDS)

W
tym roku proponujemy roczne szkolenie w czasie którego będziemy
pracowali nad relacjami z perspektywy modelu mediacji w/g metody PBP.
Celem
szkolenia jest zwiększenie komfortu radzenia sobie w sytuacjach
konfliktowych. Na początku szkolenia uczestnicy będą mieli okazję
wyznaczyć sobie konkretne, indywidualne cele, obszary nad którymi chcą
się szczególnie skupić (np.lepszy kontakt z samym sobą, relacje z
konkretną osobą, asertywność, wyrażanie złości, wsparcie w pracy z
grupą itp).
Szkolenie adresowane jest do wszystkich, którzy chcą
lepiej poznać metodę, integrować ją w swoim życiu osobistym lub
zawodowym albo znają już metodę i chcą mieć okazję do kontynuacji nauki
i regularnych ćwiczeń (szkolenie to jest uznawane jako część wymaganych
godzin w procesie certyfikacji).

•    Korzyści dla uczestników z brania udziału w tym szkoleniu

Mediacja
w/g metody Porozumienie Bez Przemocy będzie wykorzystywana jako
narzędzie do ćwiczeń z komunikacji oraz jako umiejętność sama w sobie.
Uczestnicy będą mieli okazję podnieść swoje kompetencje w komunikacji w
różnych obszarach własnego życia. Szkolenie umożliwi też poznanie
narzędzi mediacyjnych, które mogą być wykorzystywane we wspieraniu
innych a także  może być etapem w zdobywaniu kompetencji w zawodzie
mediatora.

Planujmy 7 dwudniowych spotkań weekendowych.
Pomiędzy szkoleniami uczestnicy będą mieli okazję do indywidualnej
pracy i ćwiczeń w małych grupach.

DATY: (sobota, niedziela godz.10-17)

1. 26,27.09.2009
2. 14,15.11.2009
3. 19,20.12.2009
4. 23,24.01.2010
5. 13,14.03.2010
6. 24,25.04.2010
7. 29,30.05.2010

cena szkolenia to 2450 zł

Jeżeli
jedynym powodem nieuczestniczenia w szkoleniu jest jego cena, proszę
zgłoś się i zadeklaruj jaką kwotę jesteś gotowy zapłacić. O decyzji
przyjęcia zostaną Państwo powiadomieni w zależności od ilości zgłoszeń.

Gwarancją rezerwacji miejsca jest zgłoszenie oraz wpłata na konto:
(Anna Mills  34 1140 2017 0000 4302 0856 1112 )

Proponowane tematy poszczególnych weekendów:
1.    Wstęp do metody PBP, model mediacji w/g PBP, ustalanie indywidualnych celów uczestników
2.    Kontakt z samym sobą jako podstawa relacji z innymi
3.    Mediacje w pracy (jak rozmawiać z szefem, podwładnym i współpracownikami)
4.    Mediacje rodzinne (relacje z moimi rodzicami i dziećmi)
5.    Mediacje w związkach (związki intymne, dzielenie się odpowiedzialnością z partnerem, pieniądze)
6.    Mediowanie konfliktów wewnętrznych
7.    Wspieranie jednej ze stron, kiedy druga nie zgadza się na mediacje, prośby od uczestników

An aspect of NVC for couples

This evening workshop will present a most powerful interpersonal communication process based on Marshall Rosenberg's work with Nonviolent Communication (NVC). We will overview the principles and steps of NVC, while focussing on one of the deeply enriching practices it suggests, that of expressing gratitude.

Though gratitude is but one aspect of NVC, it is a powerful one, one that allows us to remember the fundamentals of why we are choosing to be together. It generates a strong foundation upon which we then can bring up things we don't appreciate. This can then be done in a safer environment, one in which we have basic trust that we matter for one another.

We are wanting to make this workshop both deep, meaningful and fun. Being a couple who have based our relationship on NVC principles and practice, we are delighted to present to you this most exciting tool that fosters both respect AND authenticity.

Eventually, NVC allows each person to move toward moment-to-moment transparency and an enhanced ability to listen with care and wonder.

This introduction may lead to setting up a couples' retreat later on.

Is NVC for me? For us? It may be, especially if…

• We have been recycling the same arguments without solving anything for a while;
• We are very nice to each other and our life has become dull;
• I have become nitpicky and exasperated about almost everything my partner does;
• I have trouble hearing what my partner really wants me to hear;
• There are taboos between us, things we just don't bring up anymore.

While I'd really like in my couple…

• To live fully the love I feel,
• To be true to myself while deeply honouring my partner,
• To be heard and accepted, and returning that to my partner

The trainers

Valerie Lanctot-Bedard

Valerie is a certified NVC trainer, coach and mediator. She works with people who want more out of life, who want to reach for their full potential and evolve. She recognises that we meet our limitations head on when we are with other people. Facing those challenges and growing from them is the basis of her work with individuals, couples, families, communities and work teams. She has recently begun facilitating group processes around conflict called Restorative Circles.

Jean-Philippe (JP) Bouchard

JP is an organisational development consultant. He has worked with teams, managers and organisations for most of his career. Introducing NVC into his work has brought it much more depth and meaning, helping people work better together and growing through conflict.

Jean-Philippe and Valerie have created their own consulting and training firm. They work in a variety of environments and in all sorts of situations. They tremendously enjoy sharing the depth and promises of NVC, touching people in their places of innermost hope and potential.

Harmoni Holistic Health and Transformational Center
514-695-9025
info@harmoni.org

Price
$50./couple (pre-registration) - $60. at the door

Registration
Please register directly with Harmoni

Join us for a fun, experiential, and meaningful introduction to the principles and practices of Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC), sponsored by Nashville NVC and the Center for Healthy Living at the Centennial Medical Center.

Discover this life-transforming communication practice that builds trust, transforms conflict, and creates harmony in your relationships.

In this event (view color poster 8.5x14), you will learn how to create a quality of connection between yourself and others where everyone's needs, even in conflict situations, are held with care and compassion... without resorting to punishment, force, manipulation, blame or other approaches that we end up paying for later.

Learn how to honor your deepest desires in every moment, and never give in or give up on your needs again. You will learn how to:

* express yourself honestly and openly;
* hear difficult messages without taking them personally;
* connect with others by communicating empathy; and
* find the gift that underlies all blame, judgment and criticism.

TIMES:  Friday, Oct. 30: 6:30 pm - 9:30 pm CT (local time); Saturday, Oct. 31: 9:30 am - 5:30 pm; Sunday, Nov. 1: 9:30 am - 5:30 pm.  (NOTE:  This weekend is dayling savings time change, so we all gain an extra hour of sleep on Saturday evening!)

COST:  $170/person earlybird (by Oct. 1); $200/person regular rate.

REGISTER or RSVP:  Contact Mary Anne Marciante by email or call her at 615.300.8935.  Make your check to “NVC NASHVILLE” and mail with the completed registration form (download here) to Mary Anne Marciante 312 Ferris Ct, Franklin, TN  37067

THE IMPORTANCE OF COMMUNICATING COMPASSIONATELY:  More than just a luxury in ordinary times, Compassionate Communication skills are more important than ever in our rapidly changing world.

As leaders across the globe scramble to address a wide variety of economic problems, national security issues and natural resource shortages, one constant exists -- in order for any solution to be lasting, it requires people to collaborate, communicate, and act in partnership.

Compassionate Communication provides the relational skills, as well as ways of thinking and being, that support us in making the transition from a domination-style style system ("either/or" paradigm) to a
partnership approach ("both/and" paradigm).

NVC is much more than a communication process -- it is a way of life that can be applied in any situation to bring about more peace, harmony and mutual respect... that can resolve any conflict to everyone's satisfaction.

WHAT IS NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION?

NVC is both a spiritual practice that helps us see our common humanity, and a concrete set of skills which help us to live more peacefully. These skills apply to thought, language, and using our power in a way that honors everyone's needs.

NVC is a learnable process for creating emotional freedom, self-acceptance, inner peace, and fulfilling relationships. It involves expressing ourselves honestly, listening with empathy, and developing a more compassionate inner relationship.  People around the world are using NVC skills to transform conflict, create harmony in their relationships, and build a world where everyone's needs are honored through compassionate giving, and without the use of coercion or violence.

NVC was created by clinical psychologist and international peacemaker Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, who has taught NVC in more than 35 countries around the world, and whose work is supported and promoted by the global Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC).

NVC helps people to:
* speak in a way that inspires compassion and understanding
* initiate difficult conversations with more ease and confidence
* remain centered and peaceful while hearing difficult messages
* express anger fully, safely and respectfully - yet powerfully
* shift patterns of thinking that lead to depression, guilt, shame
* enliven yourself by expressing and receiving gratitude
* translate criticism, judgments and blame into life-serving messages
* resolve long-standing conflicts and heal painful relationships
* inspire others to change their behavior willingly

Experience joy connecting with your partner at a deeper level!
Even if you have no serious problems in your relationship, you can enhance your abilities to give and receive in a more loving way.
If you feel stuck, conflicted or distanced, this workshhop will help you to:
• Hear what's really going on for your partner and you below the anger, frustration, sarcasm and silence
• Learn to empathize, not patronize
* Enhance compassion, empathy and deep listening
* Say what's "up" for you without judgment or blame
* Rediscover a heart connection, not just another solution.
During this two-day interactive retreat you will strengthen your natural ability and desire to respond to each others needs and requests.
After a two hour review and practice with Nonviolent Communication basics we will offer seven more hours of interactive experiential coached practice and skill building in small groups and couples. This retreat will also offer down time for enjoying each other and the private retreat grounds.