I. Summarize participants’ evaluations, and how their feedback resulted in new learning or growth for you this past year.:
Participants’ evaluations particularly emphasized celebration of four qualities: 1) walking the talk by embodying compassion and empathy; 2) playful, experiential learning opportunities; 3) flexibility in language and form to allow for natural expression; and 4) body-based awareness and practices as a pathway to connecting with needs and NVC consciousness. I have felt a lot of internal celebration over the evaluations I received over the past year, as I am perceiving growth over the course of my path as a trainer, and a greater sense of competence and centered-ness when sharing NVC. I have particularly focused on continuing to be open to “what is happening in the moment” in training situations, even while having a plan of where we might go together.
J. What are your current growing edges or challenges as a trainer that you will be working on in the future?:
In the past few years I have been experimenting extensively in terms of sharing various NVC topics and in a variety of forms and styles. While I have learned immensely from all of this exploration, I sense that my current learning edge involves consolidating and focusing my attention, and refining and clarifying my approach to offering specific trainings and materials. On the one hand, I realize that every training is completely unique and that it is essential for me to be present to what is emergent in the moment. At the same time, I think it would contribute to my learning and ability to contribute if I review, assess, and revise lesson plans I have used in the past, creating a clearer pattern of how and what I share. I see this approach serving in a couple of ways. First, I see it as allowing me to prepare for trainings more efficiently and effectively. Second, I see it as supporting me to produce sessions and materials that will more effectively support participants’ learning and inspiration. The key will be setting aside the time to do this integration work.
K. If you found opportunities to work with other trainers this year, please share the most meaningful experiences for you.:
I am deeply grateful to two other trainers for their collaboration in this past year. First, NVC trainer Jack Lehman, NVC enthusiast Clayton Barker, and I offered a week-long NVC training together at the Hummingbird Community in New Mexico in July. Having met Jack at a Special Summer Session with Marshall in Switzerland in 2005, and not having offered a training together since 2006, it was great fun to be around him again and to soak up both his steady energy and willingness to be vulnerable and “not know.” I so appreciated the mutual support we gave each other as we held space for a lively training of mostly young adults, with us both offering a very full schedule of sessions each day. Thanks, Jack and Clayton!
I am particularly thankful for my collaboration with Kathleen Macferran, which consisted and consists of various projects, from co-facilitating two 5-day NVC trainings in support of the Freedom Project NVC prison program, to working alongside one another to help launch a Restorative Circle project on Bainbridge Island. I am so grateful for Kathleen’s openness to and enthusiasm for collaborating with me, learning together, and going through the rough spots with dedication to care and self-responsibility. Furthermore, I love our shared commitment to creating learning communities for NVC, and I am so glad that we are continuing to work together on an ongoing basis. Thanks, Kathleen!