I. Summarize participants’ evaluations, and how their feedback resulted in new learning or growth for you this past year.:
Evaluations I receive generally describe celebration of learning and inspiration, and particularly emphasize appreciation for: 1) walking the talk by embodying compassion and empathy; and 2) playful, experiential learning opportunities. The feedback I received which most clearly expressed pain spoke of a desire for more mutuality, such that participants’ own understanding of NVC might have been more invited in the course of the training. As a result of this feedback, I have explored ways to share NVC that elicit participants learning from their own experience and sharing the insight they are gaining, as well as simply looking for ways to remember that all people in the room have access to the essential wisdom underlying NVC, even if I hope to contribute my own understanding and experience as well.
J. What are your current growing edges or challenges as a trainer that you will be working on in the future?:
The challenge I am most working with as a trainer at this time is to integrate more seamlessly: 1) clear presentation of the NVC model, with 2) an organic embodiment of NVC consciousness. While I recognize that I am able to do this to some degree, I would like to cultivate a more fluid way of being as I present the form itself. I see practice as perhaps the most key thing that will contribute to this fluidity, but I see other steps I can take as well. I am also gathering personal stories and ways of sharing the NVC model that emerge directly from my life and heart, and which therefore support me in being more fully authentic as I present this work.
K. If you found opportunities to work with other trainers this year, please share the most meaningful experiences for you.:
Two particular experiences of collaborating with other trainers stand out as particularly meaningful for me from 2009. First was a three-week training visit to Sri Lanka in February, with the companionship of Shantigarbha, as we both supported Jeyanthy Siva and the Sandhi Institute. I had the opportunity to offer a training alongside Jeyanthy, and it was a deeply meaningful learning experience and inspiration for me to participate in peace work within a country experiencing a 25 year-old civil war. I sensed the life and death urgency of the situation for many of the participants, and the deep commitment and care that Jeyanthy has to the work and her home. I also appreciated Jeyanthy’s trust as we dove into first collaborating on a training “on the fly”, with little time for preparation or coordination. Thank you, Jeyanthy and Shantigarbha! Another highlight was in getting to know and work with Fabiola Fuentes in Scotland. I so appreciated both the very distinct styles of being and sharing NVC which we have, and how we found graceful ways to blend our approaches in the spirit of collaboration and shared learning. I also was grateful for the inspiration which I get from Fabiola’s sharing about her work with NVC with displaced communities in Columbia. I deeply appreciate her commitment to living interdependence in this way. Thank you, Fabi!