Weblog von Eric Bowers

The Heart of Time Travel

My mother came to stay with me over the holidays.  Our visit wasn't always easy but it turned into one of those times in which I'm grateful to have tools and support that allow conflict to be an opportunity for deeper connection and greater awareness.

I'm sure none of you is surprised that our visit had some challenges.  Family members push our buttons better than most.  My study of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) has helped me better understand why this is.

Stranger Connection and our Windows of Tolerance

As I wrote several posts ago, I often get very inspired when trail running or hiking.  Ideas come to me that I get excited about, but the excitement doesn't often carry into my day-to-day life.  About a month ago I decided to see if I could change that.  I wanted to see if I could expand my capacity for aliveness and inspiration during my day-to-day life by following through on some of the ideas that come to me while trail running.

Into and Through (and Help)

Last weekend thoughts of death surprised me at the beginning of a workshop I was facilitating.  I was explaining the opening-round process to the participants, part of which involves passing around a red bag (a magic red bag) full of cards.

A Vulnerable Deal of a Lifetime

I'm celebrating the release of my cd Baby Steps, Giant Leaps.   Thank you Little Bear Studios for your patient support and endurance (an ounce of practice is worth a pound of recording).  There are nine original songs on my cd that you can find by clicking here www.cdbaby.com/ericbowers.  I have crafted the lyrics of these songs over several years and I love them like teachers who have held my hand and helped me find my way. 

There is so much more I would have liked to have done with these songs, but I might have waited the rest of my life to find the time to create my vision.  The upside is that no one is going to accuse me of overproduction, or perfect pitch, or flawless musicianship, and I'm left with the sweet, vulnerable aliveness of a child in his first play as I unleash my heartfelt, imperfect creativity into the world.

Full Embrace at the Wheel

When I run through trees on rocky, rooted trails, over creeks, up and down canyons and mountainsides, with birdsong soundtrack, lungs pumping, inhaling Mother Nature's exhale, happiness happens and inspiration comes alive.  I get insights and revelations and creative ideas.  And I wonder why I don't do more of the things that bring me alive.

When I lie on the earth next to the sweat lodge, sobbing openly after the searing, humbling, healing round, I finally remember: it's ok to embrace this pain;  it's ok to ask for and receive help; it's a relief to be broken open amidst my community; my soldiers can lay down their weapons and stop defending a fortress made of cardboard and empty, non-recyclable tetra boxes (I thought I'd finally found a use for those tetra boxes).  And I wonder why I don't let myself grieve more.

Hands Up, Smiles Down

(Continued from last post) 

We gathered again the following week with the same eight students, their teacher, and the school principal.   A Restorative Circle (RC) is meant to be non-hierarchical, so, as much as possible, titles and roles are left at the door so that RC participants can meet as humans who are equally valued.  However, we didn’t explain the non-hierarchy principle as well as we could have, and the power structure of the school environment isn’t easily shed, which meant that students raised their hands to speak while the teacher and principal spoke more freely.  Nonetheless, the students spoke their truth, mostly to the principal, and I was inspired by how she repeated back what she had heard them say.  Of course, the principal and teacher also got to share and be heard by whom they wanted to be heard.

Where the Heart Meets the Road

There are eight sixth-grade students, their teacher, and the school principal here in the conflict room with two of us facilitators and two high school student leaders. We've come together for a Restorative Circle (RC). I'm celebrating before we've even begun, celebrating that the students felt empowered to call this RC, celebrating that the principal and teacher have taken time from their packed schedules to be here, to support a new approach to conflict in the school, one in which the purpose is to seek understanding, accountability, and action, instead of blame and punishment.

Eric's Blog

When I was in Nelson, BC over the holidays, I bumped into an old friend who I hadn't seen for a couple of years. He told me he'd heard that my former wife Melody and I were no long together. "Makes you think," he said, "if two NVC trainers can't make it, who can?"

I was unprepared for his comment, so all I said in response was that we are still good friends. This seemed to give him some relief.

Extending Roots

In my last blog I wrote that my roots were flapping in the wind. After a three-week visit in Nelson over the holidays, I now realize that is not altogether true. I have patient, flexible roots in Nelson and in the Kootenays that easily welcome me back into the fold and ground me in a sense of support, community, and home. Furthermore, although I feel my roots more keenly in the Nelson, I am lucky enough to have some sense of rootedness in several places. In some way I find my roots anytime I connect with people (or with myself for that matter) below the surface of things. The more often that happens, the deeper the roots go.

Rambling Rosa and Her Sidekick Trainer

En route to the Okanagan, Rosa climbs up the Coquihalla Highway, her headlights not as bright or straight as they could be, her modest engine pushing itself to go 45 or 50 km/hour up the pass. The snow is falling fast and sticking to the pavement as Rosa's winter tires wait for her in Nelson. A transport truck barrels past and douses Rosa with heavy sleet and snow, like a rhinoceros running past a wombat while simultaneously shaking itself dry of a mud bath (a very athletic rhinoceros and a very lost wombat). For a moment the windshield is opaque until the wipers heave the sleet and snow away.

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