Today, however, I took time to appreciate how my need for beauty and elegance is frequently met by classical NVC language.
Don't get me wrong -- I do recognize the tremendous value of making NVC language accessible and free of jargon -- in order to connect with others by using words they are familiar with.
Nonetheless, I have come across several people lately who have used more words than I enjoy, and thank goodness I knew how to reply to them in NVC. And yes, I used classical NVC language, and it created connection!
I said something like, "Person, whoa... whoa... as I'm listening to you speak, I feel a growing uneasyness because I am wanting more mutuality and balance. Would you pause for a moment, and let me tell you back what I've heard so far, and see if I'm getting what you are telling me?"
As far as I can tell, that is -- more or less -- language that utilizes the NVC formula... the very thing that I often encourage more advanced NVC practitioners to avoid!
I remember what I heard a couple of years ago from fellow NVC certified trainer, Inbal Kashtan, from California on this topic. What I recall her saying is something like, "... I don't want to do away with NVC language -- it's a beautiful language... it contributes to such beauty in my life."
