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Nonviolent Communication And Radical Self-honesty Make A Good Pair

If you are into Nonviolent Communication, there's a good chance you're aware that it entails observe, state your thoughts, state your feelings, state your needs, and state the positive results that will ensue from your needs being met.

This goes hand-in-hand with Radical Self-Honesty which is based on truthful observations, thoughts, feelings, needs, and positive results.

Before we continue, I think it is a good idea to define a few terms:

Nonviolent Communication Entails Owning Your Stories.

I have realized in my experiences with human beings (I'm writing from the perspective of a Nigerian living in Lagos) that the inability to own your stories leads to violence in your interpersonal interactions.

What do I mean by this?  Your stories refer to the events that have happened to you during the course of your lifetime.  In owning your stories, you choose to keep them to yourself as you discuss only your sincere observations, thoughts, feelings, and needs with others.

It is true that many self-help books out there write about the benefits of self-disclosure in your interpersonal interactions but the truth is real intimacy results from being able to share your sincere observations, thoughts, feelings, and needs with human beings as you get constructive feedback that lets you know your listener got your intended message and executes your message in such a way that your needs get met.

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