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Physical contact as a form of empathy

I was talking with an NVC group the other day describing how my brother comforts one of his young boys (3yo) when he puts him to bed, by laying with him till he falls to sleep (and my bother usually does too ).

I mentioned that I felt this was perhaps a non verbal form of empathy, in this case perhaps to acknowledge a need for closeness and kindness. It seemed in someone so young that this was an appropriate form and effective form of empathy.

I'd appreciate some feed back on this notion.

 

Warm regards,

 

Paul

(Melbourne Australia)

 

Posted Tue, 2013-04-30 19:11 by Paul Simpson

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He estado con mi novio durante 11 meses. Estábamos probablemente todavía en el período de luna de miel cuando me llamó por el nombre de su ex novia durante el sexo. Me quedé horrorizado y estoy convencido de que estaba fantaseando con ella mientras estuvimos juntos.Insistió en que no significaba nada y trató de hacer las paces. Me acuerdo que lo perdonara, pero el evento ha tenido un gran efecto en mí. Fue hace ocho meses y sólo hemos tenido relaciones sexuales un puñado de veces desde entonces. Nosotros realmente tienen una gran relación en todos los demás aspectos. ¿Qué puedo hacer yo / nosotros?Al dejar un mensaje en esta página, cosplay españa

Posted Fri, 2013-04-26 02:21 by zxl12230

A Battle With Vulnerability

Tears well up; corners of the mouth quiver; chin trembles and cheeks flush: an inner battle between allowing feelings to be felt and pushing them away.  This is no small conflict.  We learned well long ago that being tough, strong, independent, and "fine" is the way to survive in this world.  No room for emotions or being vulnerable.  But life without emotions is dull, or depressing, or packed full of addictions, distractions and to-do's.

Posted Tue, 2013-04-23 16:36 by Eric Bowers

The Magic Of Long Retreats

Although leading workshops and trainings has been my way of living for a quarter of a century (nooo, can’t be, I am not that old) and I lead on average three full training days per week, the European Intensive Course in Nonviolent Communication, on which I am one of the 6 trainers, holds a very special place in my heart and I look forward to it for many months in advance. I believe it is so because with the 9-day span, its format and six trainers present, it meets so many of my longings for certain qualities.

Posted Sun, 2013-04-21 07:32 by Robert Krzisnik

El amor pareja y sus efectos

El amor es uno de los sentimientos más nobles y poderosos que existen  en nuestra vida; el amor es una fuera motora que nos hace levantar todos los días de la cama y comenzar con ánimo el camino cotidiano, sin embargo algunas personas “mueren por amor” en vez de vivir por él.
Muchas personas creen estar enamoradas y se entregan totalmente por su pareja cuando ésta no les corresponde como debería corresponder. Éste tipo de personas sufren y llegan al punto de atentar contra su propia integridad por “Amor no correspondido” lo cual es un grave error.
Para comenzar, debo enfatizar que estas personas que se infligen daño y sufrimiento por enamoramientos fallidos, tan solo están  buscando en otros lo que en ellos hace falta; el amor de verdad empieza por uno mismo y luego se transmite a los demás.

Posted Wed, 2013-04-17 15:34 by HomeroDaniel

A new NVC baby born out of passion and a dream

In the same way I believe all the meaningful things in life begin, also this project started with passion and a dream.

A passion for enabling the connection between two individuals who have lost it along the way of their relationship. A passion for supporting them to find a way to really hear each other, while honestly speaking their hearts. A passion to support relationships in which everybody’s needs matter and in which struggle gets replaced by joy, fun, inspiration and creation.

Posted Mon, 2013-04-15 13:04 by Robert Krzisnik

How TED influenced my blood pressure

It seemed like a jolly idea to respond to the invitation of The Melton Foundation and to come over to Germany to speak at their TEDx event on Global Citizenship. I felt flattered to soon be in the company of all the wise and smart and inspiring TED people, and life was easy.

Until I, on the afternoon of the D-day, entered the hall for a sound test a couple of hours before and the blood in my veins froze at the sight of  THAT stage in front of me, you know, the TED dark stage with the red TED… letters, and all the lights and huge cameras around…

Posted Sun, 2013-04-07 16:06 by Robert Krzisnik

A Culture of Peace is Alive and Prospering

We started our second class of Nonviolent | Compassionate Communication Classes yesterday and our third group will start tomorrow! Immersing myself in this training has shifted how I view the world and myself in the world. I read differently. I hear the news differently! I feel more free than I ever have! What a joy to have a “life enriching” journey of exploration.

The Quakers say, “Let your life speak.”
Gaining the sight to connect the dots of how, where, when, why hearts are opening is like finding a new pair of glasses! It takes time, many, many attempts of trying them on to see if they fit and being willing to see it through to the end and then realizing within a particular amount of time it is again time for a new pair of glasses – again. Embodying the principles of nonviolent | compassionate communication has been that new pair of glasses for me! A new filter, if you will.

Posted Sun, 2013-04-07 07:29 by annieloyd

Happy Gay Pride Phoenix - time for creating a culture of peace and nonviolence!

On this grand and glorious day of celebration, I seek to help us remember how far we have come and not lose sight of how we have accomplished getting to where we are!

I’m moved to make this request because, in the last 24 hours, a conversation took place on FB that involved language that I felt was violent. A LGBTQ activist used the terms “racist,” “charlatan” and “bigot” to describe a community leader. I felt frustrated and saddened because for decades the Gay community has been a leader in creating cultures of peace and understanding in the midst of exceptional anger and fear.

Posted Sun, 2013-04-07 07:27 by annieloyd

seeking empathy ?in the wrong places??

I joined a Real Love (RL) all ladies study group in 2007.  I read the book 4 times back to back, Real Love the truth about unconditional love and fulfilling relationships, because I wanted to truly understand and I was so hungry for what was written there.  However having studied Thomas Gordon’s Effectiveness Training (parenting and family) I entered this world NEEDING what NVC calls receiving empathetically and Gordon calls active listening.  What I found was heavy focus on diagnosing getting and protecting behaviors and precious little 2, 4, 6, __.  Which is as close as RL gets to teaching the skills/mind-set of empathetic listening. 

Posted Tue, 2013-03-26 15:44 by anna rodriguez

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