Kathleen Macferran

Language of Report: 
Year of Report: 
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General Public (Including Certified Trainers and Certification Candidates)
A. Approximately how many training days did you have this year?: 
B. Briefly list the groups and organizations you worked with this year as a trainer.: 
Non-profit organizations, intentional communities, helping professionals, churches, CNVC trainer candidates, WA State Prison inmates, general public from various countries, TEDX audiences, high school and college students.
C. Approximately how many people did you offer NVC training to this year?: 
D. What are you celebrating about your training experiences this year? What was significant for you? What touched your heart?: 
I continue to be moved by how the heart and core of NVC crosses cultures, gender, age, race, income disparities, etc. I experience this in the International Intensive Trainings, prison trainings where participants come from diverse backgrounds, and while supporting work of trainer candidates from around the world. I’m grateful for the learning and companionship I am experiencing in the Trainer Candidate Community Path (TCCP). We are building life-long community with the intention of working side-by-side with our global network to create a more life-serving world. I’m celebrating the exploration and development of the systems we can create to sustain community. The courage of the individuals in this community to look at core wounding within themselves and in the systems we live in has been so inspiring for me. My experiences in prison have been incredible. I find so much inspiration as I watch the determination of the inmates to transform their lives of violence to lives where they live passionately from their values. So many stories to tell of the changes. I’m humbled to be a part of their lives. I’m also celebrating my clarity that when I work with communities I want to help create systems that will sustain the work after the workshops are complete. The forging of community that has happened in Juneau, AK with numerous on-going practice groups give me joy as I sense great companionship with the NVC team there who are living this day to day. In 2014 I gave two TEDX talks- the first was in a WA State Prison and was an incredible experience. Prisoners, volunteers, officers, administrators and officials all speaking to similar hopes of changing the prison system in ways that are more life serving.
E. Would you share some difficult experiences you had while training this year and how you handled them?: 
In the role of assessor, I am constantly in a place of exploration about how we offer this thing called “assessment” in an NVC power-with, co-created, holistically informed model. I’m gifted now more than ever before with people’s pain around evaluation in power-over paradigms. I find it challenging at times to find the resources to support individuals to the extent they need for the level of pain that is stimulated in them around experiences of evaluation. I’m grateful for the continual intention to have honest feedback flowing back and forth as part of the way we live together, where each person steps more fully into their power and doesn’t give it up to another person, where we celebrate and support each other’s strengths. In the role of integration council member for the New Futures Process in reorganizing CNVC, I struggle daily with how to operationalize a world that works for all; how to address power, privilege, cultural differences, unequal access to resources globally in ways that inspire compassion and actions that support all Life. The two TEDX talks I gave were incredibly difficult. I’m so used to interacting with participants rather than delivering a message from a stage. They both took so much soul searching about what is the essence and power of NVC, how are lives changed, how can we change the world? I spoke with several colleagues to get clear about the simplicity and essence of what we do.
F. How do you teach the spiritual basis of Nonviolent Communication in your workshops and training programs? : 
Primarily by living the process. I have a strong intention to walk my talk in every aspect of my life. I almost always share the consciousness of NVC prior to any sharing of the model and refer back to the consciousness throughout the sharing.
G. Please describe your social change goals...: 
My interest now is creating life-serving systems that are practical and accessible to all. I’m challenging myself daily to live the underlying principles in ways that are fluid and flexible. I’m specifically exploring ways to create and maintain systems that allow communities to flourish, focusing on developing the candidate community. I know that my own inner growth/connection that is key to any social change work I do so I continue on a daily basis to remember who I am, what I long for, and search for support to realize my full potential. I also believe inner growth is not nearly enough. I’m prototyping and co-creating community systems with different groups. I have hope that systems can support the qualities we are hungry for on this planet. I continue to work in the WA State prisons (men’s and women’s) to help empower all of us to live from a place of connection with needs so we no longer choose to resort to violence to meet those needs. I have deep gratitude to my colleagues who go in with me and to my brothers and sisters behind bars who inspire me with their courage and hope.
J. Please describe your efforts to create, or join, an NVC circle or organization.: 
I’m part of the Trainer Candidate Community Program (TCCP), CNVC’s educational services team, New Future Process integration council, NW Compassionate Communication, the Freedom Project and several small groups with CNVC colleagues.
K. Summarize participants’ evaluations, and how their feedback resulted in new learning or growth for you this past year.: 
The gist of the evaluations boils down to an appreciation of the embodiment of the process, gratitude to have one’s beauty and power reflected back, celebration in a leadership style that invites co-creation and shared power, gratitude for a container that invites safety and vulnerability, appreciation for the ways I showed my own vulnerability. There is also an appreciation for a willingness to engage with conflict and stay with it until there was connection.
L. What are your current growing edges or challenges as a trainer that you will be working on in the future?: 
Many areas: 1) finding ways to have the person listening to my honesty feel so clearly cared for that fear that gets stimulated is balanced with trust 2) how to be fully grounded in consciousness/principles while having enormous fluidity around the form that would best serve in every situation, 3) becoming increasingly aware in every moment of what is wanting to emerge and be co-created by the group I am with 4) how to invite each person I’m with into their full power without backing off on my own 5) how to create sustainable, renewable, restorative systems 6) how to take full responsibility for what is mine and to not take responsibility for what is others 7) self-trust and self-compassion that allow me to act more freely and from my deepest knowing 8) how to work with racism, power and privilege in ways that can support systemic change.
M. If you found opportunities to work with other trainers this year, please share the most meaningful experiences for you.: 
My IIT teams have been so connecting and inspiring for me. My dear colleagues include Myra Walden, Jeff Brown, Robert Krzisnik, Kristen Masters and Karl Steyaert. Karl Steyaert, Marcia Christen, Jared Finkelstein, Christine Flaherty, Aimee Ryan and Jennifer Warnick are co-holding TCCP (trainer candidate community path) with me. My gratitude is deep for the willingness to look at edgy places in ourselves and in the group, to dream into and implement systems that support the well-being of all, for the gift of his embodiment of the principles value. Mary Mackenzie and I have been creating learning experiences for people in transitions. I’ve loved the companionship, growth and learning. Alan Seid has gifted me with opportunities to be part of his Blackbelt Communication Skills retreat. I’ve really enjoyed the growing friendship and partnership in this work. Jared Finkelstein and I are collaborating on some projects taking some of our key principles and finding ways to share them with the general public. I’ve relished the exploration and growth that have come from the creative work. Jared has also supported candidates in the TCCP community. Marcia Christen has been a huge support in the TCCP community, especially being a partner with me in bringing candidates with us to the women’s prisons for NVC workshops. Assessors around the world- I have a sense of a global presence that is passionate about having NVC consciousness serve the world. I love the partnership I feel about preserving the integrity of the work that will support transformation. I’m grateful to know I’m not alone.
N. Is there anything else you would enjoy sharing with the CNVC network?: 
Gratitude for the willingness of my colleagues to work toward the kind of world I value. I find myself frequently longing to know all of you more fully and look forward to the day when I have more spaciousness to make requests to bring that about.

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