Penny Vine

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A. Approximately how many training days did you have this year?: 
B. Briefly list the groups and organizations you worked with this year as a trainer.: 
Manchester UK group - meets 3 Sundays per year Manchester Wood School - meets 3 days per year Gokuldham group of schools and colleges, Pune, India - 2 days Mumbai - Educators - 2 days Soul Spaces - Open Programme in Pune - 2 days Soul spaces - Exploring Anger - Pune Exploring Anger, Romania, 1 day Compassionate Communication, Romania, 2 days, Kindergarten Approximately 30 days, public trainings, UK Trainings in schools, colleges, university where the training was NVC in intent
C. Approximately how many people did you offer NVC training to this year?: 
D. What are you celebrating about your training experiences this year? What was significant for you? What touched your heart?: 
I am celebrating the invitations I am receiving to return to groups where I have trained. I have been invited back to 7 groups in 2013, including 1 in India and 1 in Romania. One group which I started offering training in September 2010 has invited me back to offer 3 separate days,4 times per year for the last 3 years. The depths we have travelled to, the progress we have all made and my joy in returning and contributing has tremendous meaning for me. Another celebration happened in India - a young woman approached me at the beginning of a training and said: I probably won't stay for the day. I'm not comfortable with groups. She stayed for the full day and then signed up for another 2 days! She emailed me with feedback saying: "I felt totally accepted by you and by the group". Very moving for me to hear and important feedback to hear my intentions realised by someone.
E. Would you share some difficult experiences you had while training this year and how you handled them?: 
With one person who attended a training he used more words than I could easily hear, often analysing others. During 1 training with him I noticed strong feelings of irritation arising in me and told myself: "I can't listen to a minute more of this!" I was able to self connect and transform what was going on in me. From this place I was able to connect with him and his longing to be heard. Once he signalled that he had been heard I asked him if he was willing to listen to what was going on me. I shared my discomfort with him and my longing for everyone to be included. Later he and I talked and he told me that many people had expressed anger with him saying things like "You dominate all conversations". We sat together in silence for 5 minutes. He hugged me and thanked me for being honest in a way where he continued to feel accepted. Afterwards 4 people on the training said they had found the experience very powerful.
F. How do you teach the spiritual basis of Nonviolent Communication in your workshops and training programs? : 
For me I don't teach the spiritual basis of NVC. Needs as life energy and processes I use seems to bring alive the spiritual basis of NVC most strongly for participants. Referring to poems / songs / quotes / meditations throughout a training has been highlighted in feedback forms as supporting people's spirituality. The key way for me is through being conscious and aware of my way of being with others.
G. Please describe your social change goals...: 
Most of my work is with families, schools and kindergartens. It is my dream, my goals and intentions to bring into being through 'working with' participants from home and learning environments, a world where everyone's needs matter and are held with care. A place where children, parents, teachers experience joy in their learning, living and being together.
J. Please describe your efforts to create, or join, an NVC circle or organization.: 
I continue to meet, have phone calls, reflect and support / be supported with Shona Cameron. I am deeply appreciative of the way we work together. I now meet with Jo Mchale and Alice Sheldon in a mini circle. Geographically we do not live close to each other but the support, connection and learningand fun that occurs between us means I am very willing to travel to be with Alice and Jo. Vicky Peirce,my dear friend, continues to be a source of inspiration for me as well as someone I learn easily with and enjoy life with also.
K. Summarize participants’ evaluations, and how their feedback resulted in new learning or growth for you this past year.: 
I have enjoyed the feedback I ask for. A number of people have told me they experience a profound sense of acceptance, care and empathy from me. More specific feedback has made reference to the way I am willing to be honest and show up vulnerably. One person said this had enabled her to 'fully show up'. I was particularly moved by some feedback my dear Sura offered me for my website. My gratitude to Penny: Penny embodies empathy, and generously offers her hand and heart as a skillful compassionate companion to those who are open to exploring their inner space. She has accompanied me through times of confusion, sadness, fear, anxiety, and shame, with gentleness and humor, and each time I have emerged with greater self-acceptance, clarity, and understanding. I would love everyone to have the gift of Penny’s empathic companionship and wise counsel. Such a gift from dearest Sura
L. What are your current growing edges or challenges as a trainer that you will be working on in the future?: 
The key for myself is to continue my practice of taking care of myself in a way that enables me to thrive not simply survive. As I approach my 60th birthday I realise this out of all the many lessons I've learned has been one of the biggest challenges to create balance internally. A key topic I want to explore is shame. I'm seeing this exploration as a big adventure and want to really immerse myself for some months in exploring this topic.
M. If you found opportunities to work with other trainers this year, please share the most meaningful experiences for you.: 
The process of working with Shona Cameron devising the 2-day workshop on Punishment, Praise and Reward was such a rich, deep learning experience for me as well as a wonderful opportunity for both Shona and I to contribute together. Although it was our first time working together the process for me was filled with such a lot of ease and what we created was appreciated by many people. Thank you dear Shona.
N. Is there anything else you would enjoy sharing with the CNVC network?: 
I would love to say a big thank you for all that you contribute and the service you offer to our network. Whenever I have contacted CNVC I have been fully heard and supported. My love to each one of you. Thank you

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