Kirsten Kristensen

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A. Approximately how many training days did you have this year?: 
B. Briefly list the groups and organizations you worked with this year as a trainer.: 
1- and 2-year groups, Train-The-Trainer, family camps, folk high school, schools, kindergartens, NVC-convention in UK, NVC-convention and other groups in India 21 days were pro bono
C. Approximately how many people did you offer NVC training to this year?: 
D. What are you celebrating about your training experiences this year? What was significant for you? What touched your heart?: 
I was especially touch by the people I met in India and their readiness to do self-reflection. I also enjoy being invited by Shantigarbha to offer my first NVC workshop in UK. I experienced being very well received when sharing some of my more personal experiences from living NVC in my own life, and exploring together how to use our body wisdom in finding beauty and freedom by engaging with painful feeling as guilt and shame.
E. Would you share some difficult experiences you had while training this year and how you handled them?: 
I have had a couple of experience in groups of mowing faster into deep work than the group was ready for. So I stopped and together we looked at what was needed, and found that there was not yet enough trust and safety for some of the participants, so we took time to get to know each other more before diving in. I also had one participant who left after first module of a 3 module training. She was not receiving what she had hoped for. I had accepted her in an advanced group, where she did not fully have the NVC foundation to benefit enough from the training. My learning was to take even more care to check that participants actually have the skill level required and have agreement how to handle it if this comes up during training.
F. How do you teach the spiritual basis of Nonviolent Communication in your workshops and training programs? : 
I bring in more meditation and body work. Especially focusing on the intelligence of the heart, and the heart’s amazing capacity for expansion and transformation. Exploring what it looks like when we really manage to hold our needs detached from specific people taking specific actions.
G. Please describe your social change goals...: 
Peace in 16 years. In 2009 I set the goal of peace in 20 years. I am enjoying so many signs of synergy towards Education for Peace. I continue to be passionate about contributing to next generation, working with parents, kindergarten and school to give children the skills to solve their differences peacefully.
J. Please describe your efforts to create, or join, an NVC circle or organization.: 
Our association Life-enriching Communication (Livsberigende Kommunikation) is still growing. We have managed to get one more grant from EU. And we have funds for producing a film about A Culture of Peace in School. The work is being prepared and the film might be ready towards the end of 2014 or beginning of 2015. I continue to enjoy the big network of NVC friends. This year I am getting more involved in the NVC community in India, and hope to support a sustainable growth of NVC in and around India. My main co-operation partners continue to be my friend Gerhard Rothhaupt and my Danish colleagues within our association.
K. Summarize participants’ evaluations, and how their feedback resulted in new learning or growth for you this past year.: 
In general I hear that participants are satisfied with my sharing and appreciate the space created where everyone feels safe to learn and grow. And I find myself more and more able to trust in my own ability to hold a space. My learning is – again – that less is more.
L. What are your current growing edges or challenges as a trainer that you will be working on in the future?: 
One of my big challenges is to enjoy the new generation of certified trainers, wanting some of them to be living NVC in a deeper way. And the way I work with this is to remember my own path. I am sure that some senior trainers found it hard to enjoy me level of integration at the time when I was certified. My learning curve was in some ways steeper after being certified, and I remember the gift of co-operation with senior trainers as a very important part of my learning. I so want to both be welcoming and continue to learn together. I am hoping that co-operation will offer all of us chances to grow together. My choice of following my passion is often not leaving the space for rest that I ALSO would enjoy having. So there is room for improvement. ☺ At the same time I want to celebrate that I am taking more time to hang out with friends and go to the beach.
M. If you found opportunities to work with other trainers this year, please share the most meaningful experiences for you.: 
I have had the pleasure of working with teams in Denmark, Germany, and India and I really enjoy it. When I think back I believe the most meaningful experience was having several days with part of the team in India to connect and harvest our learning during the NVC convention in Kochi. Not that this was the sweetest experience. It was also hard. But I learned something more about the price we all pay when we are not able to connect in the moment about how we really are and find ways to deal with it.
N. Is there anything else you would enjoy sharing with the CNVC network?: 
I feel grateful seeing how CNVC is moving forward.

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