Anne Walton

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A. Approximately how many training days did you have this year?: 
B. Briefly list the groups and organizations you worked with this year as a trainer.: 
California Institute of the Arts ELVES Society of Edmonton Santa Barbara City College Continuing Education Attachment Parenting Group Edmonton Star of the North Retreat Centre, St Albert, AB Occupy Lompoc Zen Center of Los Angeles Child Development Resources Of Ventura County Attachment Parenting Group of Calgary, AB Divine Feminine Group Healing Connections, Edmonton, AB Mulvey Creek Land Coop, Slocan, BC International Society Center for Spiritual Living, Ventura, CA
C. Approximately how many people did you offer NVC training to this year?: 
D. What are you celebrating about your training experiences this year? What was significant for you? What touched your heart?: 
I'm celebrating my increasing comfort and joy in sharing NVC plus I generally feel energized after a days training (used to be I'd feel really drained and tired). I have way more fun and am much more spontaneous and lively. I feel touched and moved when I'm supporting someone with NVC, sometimes to the point of having tears - it's a very sweet place! I feel deeply blessed to be sharing NVC with others.
E. Would you share some difficult experiences you had while training this year and how you handled them?: 
I had been offering a practice in the home of a couple who regularly attended. I noticed that I had a hard time with some of the husband's comments (right now can't recall a specific example) which I evaluated as "challenging". I felt uncomfortable when he was there; I knew it was partly because of his comments but also just generally I felt uncomfortable in his presence. Finally after about 8 months, I decided to have a conversation with he and his wife (I realize that I felt more comfortable having the wife there to express this to him) . I expressed my concern about his "comments" and gave an example. In response he said that he noticed that I was "unconfident" and when he saw this in me, he'd criticize me in his head. When he shared this, I felt distressed and sad - wanting support and encouragement in sharing NVC. I also felt relieved in some way because then I had clarity and understanding about my discomfort around him. I didn't feel good about how the ensuing conversation went, I didn't have a sense of being heard in the way I would have enjoyed plus I wasn't able to hear him as I got triggered when he talked about judging me. I stopped offering the practice group at their home after that and got a lot of empathy from others about this situation. I rarely see this man now and notice when I do that I still have some discomfort around him but less so than previously.
F. How do you teach the spiritual basis of Nonviolent Communication in your workshops and training programs? : 
Last year I began studying about the brain and it's really helped me to share NVC from a spiritual perspective - in fact, I've begun showing a short video clip about the brain at some of my trainings. In the clip, Jeremy Rifkin is talking about how human beings are soft wired for belonging, empathy and connection - in other words, these qualities are our essence. I've also come up with the term "Internal Guidance System" which I liken to a GPS which is moving us toward the expression of the life energy flowing thru us. Our body/feelings/emotions are the feedback system within us that lets us know if what we're thinking, saying and doing is in alignment with this life energy. Paying attention to our IGS and our body helps us "get back on track" with who we really are.
G. Please describe your social change goals...: 
More and more I'm focusing on my own inner work as a way to make a difference in the world. I see this is the place I have power and I trust that when I transform my own "jackal" thinking and interactions with others, it impacts everyone because we're all connected.
J. Please describe your efforts to create, or join, an NVC circle or organization.: 
I continue to be on a team in Southern CA which organizes an annual conference - this year, there were about 550 participants. Inspired by this, myself and 2 other NVCers in Calgary, AB held a "mini" conference this year with about 20 participants.
K. Summarize participants’ evaluations, and how their feedback resulted in new learning or growth for you this past year.: 
Generally what I hear from participants is that they enjoy my aliveness, fun, enthusiasm, creativity and clarity. Sometimes participants will ask for more clarity about a certain skill or point and I try to be as concise as possible in my response - I value brevity and sense that it leads to the most clarity
L. What are your current growing edges or challenges as a trainer that you will be working on in the future?: 
Staying connected to myself and trusting myself are ongoing growing edges for me - I'm celebrating the growth I've experienced in this area and see that there's still an edge there for me. Also I'm kind of embarrassed to say that sometimes I feel impatient with participants when they ask for more clarity or want me to go over something again (that I think I've been really clear about!). What I'd like to do is just stay present with them. I have noticed some growth in this area and look forward to more!
M. If you found opportunities to work with other trainers this year, please share the most meaningful experiences for you.: 
I regularly facilitate with my partner Rodger and find increasingly I'm experiencing more flow and ease in working with him. Also had a chance to work with about 12 other trainers at the SO CAL conference, tho I wasn't facilitating with them, there was a great sense of community and collaboration that I really enjoyed!
N. Is there anything else you would enjoy sharing with the CNVC network?: 
I am so grateful to Marshall for developing this process and feel enormously blessed to be sharing this process with others.

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