Notes from Call #3: Conference calls to talk about Process for a New Future

Dear all,

It is a great delight for me to share a summary of questions that came up during the 3rd call about the New Future process (on April 22 for most participants). Through these calls, I have so enjoyed the energy and shifting into a shared reality with you all. I’m grateful for the questions coming up, and the partnership, curiosity, and willingness to play and contribute. Thank you all, so very, very much. My heart is soaring.

We were over 50 participants, and Godfrey Spencer interpreted into French. We had many callers from the French speaking communities, but people joined in from many corners of the world: Australia, Belarus, Brazil, Bulgaria, Canada, France, Germany, Lebanon, Netherlands, United Kingdom, United States (coast to coast), and possibly more that I was not able to track.  I enjoyed seeing people from the past two calls as well!

The link to the raw notes, including check-ins, expressions of celebration, and more, are here:  .  I encourage you to peek in if you want a flavor of what the call was like.

(Call #2 notes are still in the process of review, and I will post them as soon as I have them back from Dominic.)

A request: Would you be willing to translate this into your language, if you believe it would serve your language group?
With love, joy, gratitude,
Purpose of call

Bob: As  I’m sure many of you know, CNVC a two weeks ago announced a process that will take the next year or so. This process is about re-envisioning how we want to live together at the level of working through NVC organizations. We announced this by releasing some relatively large documents, and I know that is not necessarily everyone’s preferred way of taking in information. Even if it is a way you are comfortable with, you might still have questions or wish for a deeper understanding, and want to have an actual conversation. So I see a couple of purposes in this call. One purpose is to support shared understanding of what we envision happen in this process, including any particular concerns or particular excitement you have. And it is also an opportunity for me to learn if there is anything I should know about how this is being experienced by people so that I can know if there is anything else I can do to support the process.
[Please see the raw document for check-ins. I truly enjoyed being part of that meeting and hearing you. Deep sense of gratitude and community. Thank you – Elin]
Question:  Irmtraud: The main process will happen during a time when there are holidays in Europe (July and August) and many people would be on holiday and not available. I wonder how you can take this into consideration.

Bob: It is possible that the timing might work out. The Synanim process from beginning to end will take about a month. That will likely largely be in the month of June.  Then there is a period of gathering feedback about the Synanim process, which may to some extent overlap the holiday period.  The process of identifying the themes and participants in the working groups is also likely to be happening during the holiday period, which will make it challenging to connect with people in Europe who we would like to have participate. I think we are going to simply have to do the best we can and see how that works out.
Ray: I’d like to know where we are in the process and what happens next?

Bob: The process has four phases, and the first phase is going to be involving an online process using a software tool called Synanim. I’m guessing the Synanim process will begin in 4-8 weeks. The next important step is that there will be an invitation to sign up for specific Synanim sessions. What happens even before that, right now, is trying to make sure the word is out, that people are aware of what is happening, hopefully have a willingness to participate. Having a certain level of participation is going to be really essential to this process being fully effective. And so, frankly, as one who is leading this process, I’d like to be confident that people have a certain level of awareness and willingness before I would even be eager to send out the invitations for the Synanim process. So to the extent that people are able to talk to others in the network about this, that would be helpful.
Ivaylo: What is the minimum number of people needed to make sense for the process to start?
Bob: That is quite difficult to quantify. I’d say that if I thought that only 10% of those active in the network were going to participate in Synanim, that would be too little for me. If I thought that 70% would participate, I would be quite delighted. What would be enough?  I don’t know yet. I think it’s going to be a sense, from the feedback we are receiving.
Erik Willekens: I am thinking it is a separate process, to get people together [to be willing to participate], and that this will [peak only after] the four phases of the New Future process. The more people participate in the process, and the more results come out of it, the more people will want to participate as well. It would be a gradual process of more and more people getting together throughout. (text shortened significantly – Elin)
Bob: I’m hearing that as we go through the existing four phases of the process, and people see that decisions are really made and action really happens, there will be increased willingness to engage in further collaboration — and that’s aligned with my sense of things. And we envision this as an iterative process, with the entire outline of this process simply being a first pass at improving. And to the extent that this is seen as effective and creates movement in directions that people like, there may be energy for even deeper processes and conversation, in a year or two. When I talk about wanting more than 10%, at this stage, I’m not talking about everyone giving massive amounts of time for the next year. What I’m talking about is the initial phase of the online process. For the majority of participants this would take perhaps 4 hours of their time. It is a very finite commitment of effort. It is for this very limited effort that I’m hoping for a large participation.
Erik: My request would be to really encourage everyone on this call, in the network, to invite everyone they know, to participate in this process.

Bob: Thank you. And the concrete step one could take now - one of the participants (Eva) has created an initiative to gather information of people interested, that will be displayed in a world map. If people would sign up for that, that would support confidence that we are ready to move forward. Thank you.
[To submit information: To view map: Map may take some hours to update. "This is just for fun! This is not the actual sign-up for the process."]
Klaus: It would help me greatly to do some marketing, if for the Synanim process we had real live examples of the questions we are interested in. The example with the animals did not click for me. I’m confident I could get a lot of people interested if we had live examples. Can you say something about how we could get the Synanim questions? And does everyone involved get the same questions?

Bob: Let me answer in reverse order: Yes, everyone gets the same questions. However, in the five stages of the process, variations on the same question will be asked, so that those who continue on to later stages of the process will consider the issues from slightly different angles. For the sake of transparency, I would like to share the actual questions, but the creator of Synanim has recommended we not share the questions. This apparently comes from a desire to keep people’s responses fresh.

Klaus: I am not proposing that you share the real questions that you would ask people, but the request is to come up with questions of the same quality.

[Bob and Klaus will continue this specific conversation via email, as the request is for a specific kind of material to support marketing.]
Rita: I’m calling from Lebanon. I am thinking about how to translate everything into Arabic, to involve the Arabic countries. We have already translated the letter, but we are going to miss the deadline for signing up with and participating in Synanim, due to how long it is taking us to translate the documents, which is done through volunteer work. Would it be possible to join the procedures later, once we have the information in our language?

Bob : I’m delighted to hear that it’s alive for you to bring this to the Arabic speaking communities. I see a note from Catherine that the same issue is somewhat up for folks in Japan. My suggestion would be for those engaged in these efforts to contact us directly at future [at] cnvc [dot] org so we can have some conversation about how to be strategic about your translation efforts. There may be some materials that haven’t even been released yet, that might be the most relevant for this first phase. This first phase is really the one that is easiest for people to participate in. It would be quite sad for me if people missed out on participating in that phase.
Aline: I notice from the forums that many people have suggested different technologies or methodologies for this process. I am wondering if you could clarify whether at this point you are open for that?

Bob: As far as the basic outline of the process, there’s quite a high threshold to make changes. There is a certain value just to have some process, even if it is imperfect, to be able to move forward. At the same time, if we learned of a major problem, something we could change, we would certainly do it. I did see that some of the technologies that were being mentioned were possibly things that Working Groups might choose to use to support connection with the larger network while they do their work. So, things that could support the Working Groups in doing their work, either by providing ideas to consider, or technologies to use, I can imagine that could be useful.
Doug: What is the most important thing you’d like us to take away?

Bob: I’m not sure exactly how to make this into a doable request, but there’s this longing in me to know people are on board and willing to go on this journey with us.

My wish is for you to support others to participate in this process. And to continue to engage us if you have questions or things we could do to support your community in more easily being engaged in this process. So, I hope for you to write us at future [at] cnvc [dot] org for anything that’s really specific, and to continue to have general discussions on the trainer group and the cnvc-futur Google Group.
I hope there will be ways to continue to have the conversations that are needed. Please write to us (future [at] cnvc [dot] org)  or to one of the lists if there is something that was left out of this call that you are needing.

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